The now-viral video of “Single Ladies” as performed by young girls has created quite the stir. The children put on a show brimming with talent and hard work, but the majority of those on the outside of this production looking in are not happy. Unfortunately for all the children who actually are exploited and abused, those who take issue with the video are only willing to look so far. Never has it been more deftly illustrated just how easy it is to distract oneself from reality with a perception.
In a conversation that comes in as the most average of all the online and televised discussions, The View’s Joy Behar offers up her perception, insisting the video is “a pedophile’s dream.” What Disney version of pedophilia is running around in anyone’s head that an eyebrow-raising dance video is lauded in a sick-bastard world over videos that make even the most jaded criminal investigator vomit or cry?
As a child sex abuse survivor myself, I feel more than a little disturbed that there exist millions of people who can be stopped in their tracks and left gasping for air by what they saw in that dance video. What in the hell would you people do if you came across actual evidence of a child having been molested – or a child being molested? Is that why so much child sex abuse goes unreported – because your brains shut down and rendered you incapable of telling someone in authority?
It’s bad enough that you don’t know thy enemy, but don’t redefine him to suit your palate. If you really think that video is what a pedophile wants, then you could no sooner protect a child from him than catch a passing train with your hand. Pedophiles come in all shapes and sizes, but mostly they come in “related” or “mom’s boyfriend.”
Don’t wrap your discomfort and indignation around this video expecting to be regarded as some kind of gatekeeper for exploited and abused children when watching a parent-sanctioned and supervised dance and bitching about it is the extent of your effort. You couldn’t be more useless to children who actually are in harm’s way if you just keeled over and died.