After a bad breakup, some people withdraw into their shells and hide from the dating scene. Others stumble blindly into the next relationships that come along just to stave off being alone. It’s not easy to pick up the pieces of a broken heart and shattered ego and give them a good, hard look before putting them back together. But it’s necessary if you don’t want to repeat the patterns of previous relationships, say Diane Sawaya Cloutier and Mario P. Cloutier, authors of ReLovenship™ – Look Within to Love Again!
The Cloutiers are relationship coaches who speak from their own real-life relationship sorrows and ensuing search for a soul mate. They coined the term “ReLovenship™” to describe the introspective process they’ve charted to help the broken-hearted discover their self-worth and enhance their “love-worth.” Chapters are filled with revealing accounts of the authors’ own experiences and evolutions: the couple is living proof that the heightened self-awareness built on purposeful self-reflection really can lead to a happily-ever-after relationship. In ReLovenship, they have defined the necessary steps to create a “no compromises, no settlements” approach for finding the right match.
The book also serves as a workbook: its assignments walk you through a sequential process to help you identify your beliefs, values, priorities, and gratitudes. (Worksheets for the assignments can be downloaded from the ReLovenship.com website.) Some of the exercises may explore areas of your psyche that you really wanted to avoid. But, say the authors, you need to dig deep to find out what really makes you tick.
The Cloutiers coach readers on ways to weed out petty or self-destructive thoughts, and instead generate “well-thought thoughts.” They explore how to challenge “I am” statements that paint an inaccurate picture of who you really are or want to be. In the end, their step-by-step process of self-analysis uncovers who you are at your core, and what type of person you’re looking for in a long-term relationship.
Once you’re ready, ReLovenship™ – Look Within to Love Again! shows you how to internalize your intention to find a new, companionable relationship, including helpful tactics for getting back into the dating scene. But this time, having done the work, it’s on your own terms.
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