“There goes a hen-pecked husband,” they would snicker behind their beers, watching a brow-beaten husband head home, not wanting to hear his wife nag him if he returns late from a ‘buddies night out’. If only things went as far as verbal abuse and heckling.
It was recently reported on CNN that there is an increase in the number of cases where women have resorted to violence in their relationships. While some might find cat fights to be sexy, when a woman turns on a man and scratches his face with talon-like nails, it is only then that a man realizes that there is no such thing as the ‘weaker sex’.
Paul, who works for a cement company, said his wife would attack him when he got home from work. “She’d come running at me like a wild animal, both hands and arms swinging; I think she had her eyes closed half the time,” he was quoted as saying.
Women tend to get instant sympathy from society; however, when men are victims of domestic violence, they’re generally heckled for not being able to take the ‘little woman’ into hand. Would the man then be justified in defending himself or would he be slapped with a misdemeanor and do time in jail?
The depths of domestic violence are always murky and while accusations are made by both sides, the law generally tends to believe the woman’s side even if she is the abuser.
While women have earned their rightful place next to their male counterparts, it is imperative that women should not abuse the laws of the land. But then again, human nature is such that when we make mortal enemies we use all means possible to destroy the one who is at the receiving end of our wrath, whatever the gender.
Domestic abuse begins with verbal abuse. The signs are always present and there can be no excuses to stay in a soured relationship even though the spouse may apologize once the terrible words were said or violence was done. The best way to avoid domestic violence is to leave at the first sign of abuse, even when the abuser is a woman.
There is no reason why a man should stay married to a woman who resorts to verbal or physical abuse and should rightfully be able to provide domestic abuse as legitimate grounds for divorce.
And the victim should have the support of his male friends and of society instead of being further victimized by having his masculinity questioned, as the laws of the land, obviously, do not support Horatio-like tactics.