I have a question for all the men out there:
What happened to chivalry?
Maybe it’s just me, but I have yet to find a guy who implements the level of chivalry that would easily be classified as appropriate and acceptable in today’s society. I don’t expect any guy to take off his jacket and cover a puddle so I can walk over it without getting wet, but what I do expect is to be treated like a lady.
What do I mean by this? Here are my top 5 picks for doable, chivalrous acts in today’s society:
- Open the car door for me
- If I’m cold, offer me your jacket
- If I am carrying something heavy, carry it for me
- Hold doors open for me
- Help me with my chair when we sit down at a table
Why it is virtually impossible to find a guy who implements all these acts is really confusing to me. The only explanation I can come up with is our culture.
We see it on TV and in the movies all the time, guys who just don’t quite get it. Guys who don’t hold doors open for women, guys who watch women struggling to carry heavy things but continue to sit on the couch and watch the game, guys who fail to offer girls their jackets if it is cold out. It is like our culture has made it acceptable to bypass basic acts of chivalry and has created a breed of man that lacks the ability to treat a lady like a lady. So much for sweeping women off their feet.
I’m sure there are men that will read this article and say “Chivalry is dead. Get over it. Women wanted to be treated as equals, they got what they wanted, now deal with the consequences.” My response? “If you want me to treat you like a respectable man, start acting like a gentleman and treat me with the respect a woman deserves. Would you be happy if I stopped cooking or going out of my way to do nice things for you? I doubt it, so you can be darn sure I am not happy if you stop acting like a gentleman.”
Granted not all men are like this. I am sure there are more than a few who are trying to single handedly keep chivalry alive, and I’m sure a few of these guys take it to an unbelievably impressive level by not only doing things that would be and should be deemed as normal in today’s society, but stepping it up by standing up when a woman is arriving/leaving the table or always offering to drive if taking a woman on a date. To the men that do these things, please keep it up.
And to the men who don’t have a chivalrous bone in their body, consider changing your mindset. Guaranteed if you do, you will have women lining up to meet you.
Women, what are your opinions on the lack of chivalry today? And men, do you implement chivalry? Why or why not?