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Wedding Woes: Don’t Become a Bridezilla

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“I’m marrying you, Carrie. Not 300 people,” said Carrie Bradshaw’s love, Mr. Big, as he tried to convince her to tone down their wedding in the Sex in the City movie.

When I heard Big say this, I felt validated. It was as if all my thoughts about weddings and marriages had been vocalized in a couple of short sentences in a blockbuster movie. I usually find myself in the minority of the female population, because I can’t understand the validity of a big wedding and the transformation of a bride into a "bridezilla."

My understanding of a wedding is that it is merely a symbolic ceremony of two people’s love for each other. It’s not an effort to prove this love. Instead, it’s a ceremony meant to be shared with those who, like your fiancé, also have a piece of your heart. No matter what the religion, or even if it’s not a religious ceremony at all, it’s still sentimental enough that it does not require fluff to pad the love of the person you’ll be spending the rest of your life with.

The idea that a wedding should more of a production than a sincere ceremony between two people has somehow spun out of control, with TV shows documenting the weddings of bridezillas, professionals in the wedding planning industry making millions per wedding, and the wedding party becoming an exclusive VIP group.

This essentially 21st century fantasy of a fairy tale wedding has hit a frivolous, over-dramatic peak that seems to have affected the whole country. This trend isn’t present in just one type of bride, or even one religion. It’s found in most all religions – Catholic, Jewish, Protestant – and even non-denominational weddings, proving that it’s not a question of morals or traditions but simply a function of a modern Western society that has planted unrealistic ideas in the minds of all brides.

From girls’ youngest and most impressionable ages, we've been taught that a wedding is our time to be a princess. We’re informed through movies, books, and culture in general that we’ll have our Prince Charming, a thousand-dollar venue, table linens, and a killer body for our killer dress.

Although not married, I think it’s pretty safe to say that the “Prince Charming” will probably have some flaws (which you’ll learn to love of course).  Table linen or flower budgets might have to be cut in order to get your dream venue. And the dream dress might not be on the ideal wedding-weight body when it comes down to the big day.

Sure, Carrie Bradshaw had her size-zero body ripped and toned and an unbelievably gorgeous Vivienne Westwood wedding dress. Her bridesmaids were fashionably chic. And perhaps most perfect of all, and a telltale sign that Carrie had become a bridezilla, was that her wedding took place in the mammoth, over-the-top New York Public Library. This tipped the wedding over the edge and into a bridezilla downfall.

It’s not that you can’t have too many perfect things in one life. Rather, it's that at too many weddings there comes a point when the particular place and angle that the groom is standing becomes more important than what the man standing there has to offer and how much he loves you.

These imperfect things are what ultimately drive bridezillas to their insanity. From watching just a couple of episodes of the TV show Bridezillas (it’s hard to watch for longer than 20 minutes in one sitting) I’ve seen that the tiniest obscurity, like a bridesmaid not wanting to get a French tip manicure, can “ruin” a wedding for one of these bridezillas.

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