I've been involved with a woman for nine years. It's been a stormy, volatile relationship. We have a child together. I love her, but I take her for granted. She feels like I don't love her. Then when she leaves and is with somebody else, I'm hyper-focused on getting her back.
She thinks I only like the challenge of getting her back. Do you have any advice astrologically?
Sleepless in St. Louis
Yes I do. Grow up. What you are doing to this woman is not cool and if she were writing me, I would tell her to leave your ass high and dry and not look back.
You’re pushing 40, you know. How about learning some impulse control, hmm? How about taking some responsibility for this pattern and the pain it creates. How about getting your ass to therapy!!!
Look. You’ve got a child. That’s a cue to stop acting like a child yourself. And you want the astrology? Fine. You have a freedom loving Venus in Sagittarius square Pluto – clear the decks. So you have a freedom urge, a surge that is and you throw your woman under the bus.
But in reality, there’s a lot of Cancer in your chart and you are dependent on her. So in effect you are acting like a little boy having a tantrum:
“I don’t need you Mommy!!!”
But the whole world looking on knows different.
Embarrassed? I hope so. You are way too old for this.
As far as I am concerned you should make this up to her, starting today. For your sake not hers. Saturn is coming to square your Sun in Scorpio. Grow up, grow up, grow up. Work (Saturn) on your psychology (Scorpio). Take responsibility for Godsakes. Start today.