As the title of this episode of Sister Wives suggests, it focuses mainly on Kody Brown, the husband, and his struggles with maintaining intimate relationships with his four wives. There are also a lot of other topics interwoven throughout: Robyn, the fourth wife, reveals that she will be having a boy, there is conversation about some new family business ideas, and all the sister wives discuss the issues that Christine, the second wife, is currently having in her relationship with Kody.
Since they’ve moved to Las Vegas from Utah to escape possible prosecution for polygamy, the Browns have been living in four separate houses, one for each wife and her kids. The houses are as much as a mile apart, which means Kody is driving a lot to spend time with everyone. He’s frustrated and tired, although he really isn’t throwing a pity party about it.
Kody’s not a sympathetic character in our culture. Polygamy is still taboo in mainstream America. I’ve been reading a lot of the blogs and articles out there about Sister Wives, and I know that people tend to think he’s having his cake and eating it too, by being able to be with multiple women while they have to share him.
As someone who’s chosen a polygamous lifestyle myself, I see his flaws but I also sympathize with his plight. It’s true that he did choose his life, but so did each of the sister wives, and I believe they have that right. I also know that being a polygamous husband is hardly the paradise some imagine it might be!
Kody and each of the sister wives has a one-liner they speak during the intro to each episode, and his is “Love should be multiplied, not divided.” Personally, I think this is a little cheesy, but I get his point. The point of view most people have is that he is dividing his love, and that each wife gets less than she deserves because of this. But poly people find that love increases when it’s shared, because love is not a finite thing that can be divided like a pie. Polygamous women also have the love of their sister wives; in a functional polygamous household, there can arguably be a lot more love to go around than there might be with only two adults.