They come to the conclusion at the end that Robyn needed 11 days‘ honeymoon and that it is “selfish” of the others to have wanted him to not spend so much time with Robyn, but there is a sense that the situation is still tense. The other wives say they understand that Robyn “needed” the 11-day honeymoon…yet it must seem to some of them, at least, that she got much more than any of them did (none had what might call a lavish honeymoon).
One hopes that all the wives feel they are getting what they need from this relationship. Robyn urges him to make sure he loves all his wives—that this gives her a sense that he will always love her. I can understand loving more than one person; and I am sure that the love they all have for one another is real. If only the women could have other husbands: and why not? (At one point during the series, Meri, whose 20th anniversary with Kody it is, speaks of her loneliness and jealousy. She says, in essence, “How would you like it if there were another man?” Kody blows up and says that the idea of her another husband is “vulgar.”) Due to their religious beliefs, they won’t have other men in their lives. The best hope one may have for the family is that all of the Browns fully blend together and be completely loving and supportive of one another.
Is it interesting? Yes—at least for some, certainly for me. I want to know more about this story, and will go on viewing the show if it renews for another season—despite my husband’s saying “How can you watch that stuff?” (Yes, I have only one husband.)
I look forward to seeing how things develop in the world of real, honest-to-goodness Big Love. I am well aware that I am writing here about real people who have a life together, children who are brothers and sisters, and thoughts and feelings. Their story is fascinating, and I wish them well…and hope, to be sure, that they avoid trouble with the law for having been so honest about the truth of their lifestyle.
Aired Sun., November 21, 2010 on TLC
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Article comments
1 - Jim
What a sensitive approach to a situation that many people would just recoil against. I've never seen this show but I enjoyed reading your perspective.
2 - Nan Simon
Jim, thanks! I am glad you liked it. It's a whole other world, and by and large I am glad to be married to one man now, but I can understand the feelings of the sister wives perhaps more than most.
Ladybelle
3 - Nan Simon
PS the above is not by Nan Simon. Mistake. By Ladybelle Fiske.
4 - Realist
You shouldn't be using your sister's email, Ladybelle!
The aspect that fascinates me about this show is the topic of this post: why the other women tolerate in-house competition. I know no woman who is willing to share her man with another woman, and yet these women do.
Up until I read this article, I thought that Kody had something special going on, but now I see that what he has is a flock of hens with self-respect issues who are deep in denial against their own feelings regarding their complex relationship. In order for this cluster arrangement to work, their feelings have to be subverted under the guise of religious observance. As such, I don't buy it, and I fear that Kody's idyllic existence is going to explode. He isn't treating Robyn as he did the others, and there is clear resentment over this fact. Robyn's warning to call the other wives and tell them he loves them isn't going to fix things. His other women will suddenly decide that they have had enough and want out, leaving him to deal with the wreckage. Will the show cover that episode?
5 - Ladybelle Fiske
I hope so, Realist! I look forward to it. (Was at Nan's house for Thanksgiving-- that's how it happened that her name is there-- an odd irony).
Kody, frankly, seems like a "nice jerk" to me -- and there are more of those in both the monogamist and polygamist worlds than we'd like to think. You're probably right. Robyn's special and this is not going to change, no matter how much they say "we'll settle into it"... Meri, I feel, realizes this already, being quite bright. Yet, I like the women and hope for the best for them all. Glad you liked the article.
6 - Jordan Richardson
Sounds like a very interesting program. I've not seen it, but I'm going to have to have a look at it now. These sorts of relationships are fascinating.
Very nice review, Ladybelle.
7 - Ladybelle Fiske
Thank you, Jordan.
8 - wanda shepard
sister wives tv show is one i like watching and should make more like this one , great job keep up good shows
9 - Madea
I can honestly say that I like this show a lot better than seeing Kate Plus Eight. this woman saw that there was money to be made by pimping those eight kids out just as the Duggar's are doing with their kids. In the case of 19 kids and counting, this woman is IMO having all of these kids in order to keep that show going. having a large family is nothing "NEW" because, that was the norm back in the day and, no one profited from it either.
10 - Rebecca Nay
I know i don't think i could be apart of that life style .I do believe in a world were single mothers and fathers and same sex couples are raising children.I believe the more support are children of the future have the better no matter the circumstances And these mothers love there children as well as each other. And i personally think its wonderful.Before you judge remember we all live under the blanket of freedom, self expression,the freedom of religion and how we worship and who we worship and the right to live are lives how each of us see's fit.
11 - Rebecca Nay
The differance between Kody and any other man.you have to admire that
12 - Isabella Fiske McFarlin
The main thing that bothers me (in ANY religion) that people do in the "name of God" is striking children. Adults can leave, they can refuse, they can fight back. Children, often severely punished in the name of religion, are unable to leave or to fight back. It seems to me that the women in this marriage are adults, and can choose for themselves what they want to do. (Of course, it can be hard to swim against the current of one's upbringing and Or it appears that they can, at least-- though we can hardly know all of it.
Kody appears to be an amiable fellow (as long as he gets his way, anyhow). I personally wouldn't want to marry him, but chacun a son gout (To each his/her own), as the French say. It's just a matter of preference.
Love comes in many strange shapes and guises. As long as no one is getting hurt, and as long as the children are well-cared for, I am inclined not to be too critical "Judge not..."
Thanks for reading and writing back!
13 - Isabella Fiske McFarlin
Whoops, sorry for the broken sentence up there... I didn't see it somehow and there seems to be no way to go back and edit it now. I'll try to find out.
14 - Isabella Fiske McFarlin
Hello All,
I will be reviewing the second season of SisterWives on a new feature on Blogcritics, TV OPEN THREAD. I will post briefly after the show (leaving some time for it to air in the West) and all who wish to are welcome to comment, so we can chatter about our first impressions of the episode. Sounds like fun, doesn't it?
Isabella