Candice is so clearly unhappy and the doting Richard Gere who plays her husband, so clearly doesn’t do it for her anymore. Nonetheless, she still keeps up with the tweezing and the highlights and the waxing, but we are expected to believe that she has no intention of having an affair; all this upkeep is for her or for her husband who she doesn’t want anymore? And then oops, one day the wind blows her accidentally into this exotic foreign guy in SoHo and she literally falls on top of him, and it’s all one big accident, which sounds a look like “honey, I didn’t mean to, but I slipped and my dick, well…” you know. Are we really to believe that Candice isn’t looking for an affair. That it’s all one big accident.
Candice is so hesitant – pretty much all the way through, even when she’s fucking the lover, she’s pushing him away and biting him and punching as he’s edging down to her lily-white pure and suburban Good Girl cotton panties, which is her way of telling herself she tried to resist and so is not at fault, la la. If you’re going to have an affair, which I’m not condoning, but if you go there, then at least enjoy it; the time to be conflicted is beforeit goes anywhere. By the time the guy is edging toward your panties, it seems to me a little late in the game to still be deciding whether it’s the right or wrong thing to do. I think it’s the wrong thing to do, for the record, but again, if you’re going to do it, at least do it with conviction.
Basically, Candice is representative of so many of today’s torn women who do everything to attract and then resist and intellectualize and feel guilty because what they were advertising for does comes along and when it does, they don’t know what to do with it.. Frankly, I don’t know why she even bothers with the affair in the first place: she’s too wound to really enjoy it. She’s too full of guilt, so she ends it. What kills me is that when she goes to end it and finds her lover running through the rain with some gorgeous dark-haired Italian or Spanish-looking girl who looks like she’d enjoy the fucking a lot more, Candice is both shocked and hysterical. Betrayed. She’s cheating on her husband – but it’s inconceivable that anyone would cheat on her. What, exactly, is her moral view point here? That her lover, who is in the middle of a separation (which is honest) and is playing the field, should be committed only to her? Go home little girl and cry with your cat and take some Klonopin. And no worries about this happening again, at least with this guy, because pretty soon, her husband finds out and decides to kill the lover and dump the body, because it’s all so bad bad bad and the message is This is what happens when you follow your animal instinct. Glen Close met the same end in Fatal Attraction (another Adrian Lyne film). The lover must die.
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Article comments
1 - Eric Olsen
Whoa, that's something Sadi, thanks and welcome! Never has gardening sounded so appealing.
2 - Chris Kent
----these are girls with giant blue vibrators tucked away in their Pier I night-tables----
Sadi, I did not want to know this!!!!
Nice work, and interesting to see things in your perspective - though you use the word "fuck" more than Tony Montana!....;-)
3 - sadi
apologies for language, and i think you're right ... i hadn't realized it was so full of bad language. i promise to be better next time!
thanks all for reading... hope you found it interesting... very gratifying to know it's being read...
of course, it's just my opinion... and grateful for all feedback.
sadi
4 - sadi
ahhh...i see the typos and i am so sorry. so now with the language and the typos, i hope i haven't totally lost anyone... though maybe for other reasons. I will be more careful in the future. thx. to all for reading... and please keep posting comments if the spirit moves you. i plan to write every week... so now Onward to next topic !~ Thx for being such a receptive audience; your comments mean everything.
sadi
5 - Eric Olsen
S, if there are typos (I fixed a couple) please fell free to go back in and edit. I reedit my own posts all the time. That's why they are perfect.
6 - Ant
Sade
I thought your colorful use of language was totally refreshing (you write in the way I talk)- and suited the topic perfectly!
I really enjoyed the article and your style. Bravo!
7 - sadi
awww, shucks. glad to hear it, Anthony! Working on other stuff, so you'll have to check that out too... if the spirit moves ya. ;)
keep cool
sade
8 - Erica
Sadie, just because you've had a few bad experiences in life doesn't mean true love doesn't exist..and NO I do not believe "the virginal bride" is a "silly charade." Love is hard though no doubt.
9 - Eric Olsen
"true love" requires as much or more work than false love
10 - Shark
Sadi sez: "...I feel most beautiful when I am alone in my garden, wearing that slightly see-through slip that I love and my Doc Marten gardening boots and no underwear and no make up and my high-lights have grown out and I’m covered in freckles and my breasts are loose in my shift and I feel full and ripe and full of life and that the world is mine for the taking."
Whoa.
Sadi, coupla things:
* got jpgs?
* Universal Law #33: ALL men are either gay or insensitive pricks; there are no exceptions.
* ie. You shoulda been a lesbian; women are great!
* "Masturbation: Sex with someone I love!" -- Woody Allen
* I've never been one to define myself relative to others' expectations, but man, thanks to age and wisdom, all that crap means even less. God rewards the patient survivors with enlightenment coupled with flaccidity.
* got jpgs?
11 - sadi
hey Shark: excellent points all, and jpegs exist, but alas not for sharing.... ;)
the older i get, the more i wonder about this "true love" business. Yes, Eric is right; if it does exist (my issue), then it requires as much or more love than false love, no question. But i wonder how we define true love anyhow? One may know what is true for onesself, but what of the other and how they feel? How do you know whether or not their love is true?
Yes, without a doubt, i should have been and almost was a lesbian, and odd you mention since i was just saying this to my friend P. today, who was agreeing with me. I was deeply in love with a woman who is a lesbian many years ago, and we were and are good and dear friends but things did not progress for myriad reasons - too complicated to get into here, and i think though, to the point, much to the regret of both of us likely. It's too bad. Things would have been totally different for me and for her too, no doubt. Life would be nothing like what it is today.
Shark says All men are either gay or insensitive pricks, which i hate to believe, but experience is showing me that this may have more truth than initially believed and i do not WANT to believe that, so am happy to be proven wrong at any time. Please... show me that this is NOT the case.
That's all i have to say. Shark, my dear friend, i would send you jpegs, but we're not that close, are we, so how can i do that? sorry sweets...
love to all,
sade