DVD Review: Custody

I found myself feeing disappointed and confused by Custody, the 2005 independent film by writer, director, and actor Eric Stuyvesant. Stuyvesant says the movie is quasi-autobiographical, that it represents his life as a single father, especially the feeling of being trapped by life's circumstances. In the film his wife walks out, leaving him with 3 sons to raise alone. He struggles with the day-to-day issues most single moms know all too well, like finding quality child care. If Stuyvesant has only had to deal with the single parent issues portrayed in this film, he should consider himself lucky.

The thing that confused me about this film was Stuyvesant’s use of surreal scenes. In some scenes, he and his sons lived in a prison cell. It took me a while to figure out it wasn’t just an awful homeless shelter: it was his way of expressing that he felt trapped.

In the surreal courtroom scenes, he correctly portrayed the frustration many people feel with the family courts: the feeling that what they have to say isn't important and that they're lost in something immense and senseless, but I would have appreciated a more realistic dialogue from the judge. Stuyvesant did portray the frustration some parents feel when they aren't getting help from the absent parent, but the fact is only 5-10% of fathers get sole custody, and many fathers want more time with their children, not less. I do have to say that his use of the circus song "Thunder and Blazes" for the court scenes caused me to chuckle. That was a very good call: it is exactly how many people feel about family court.

I enjoyed the touching scene of the main characters walking together and falling in love, two single parents played by Stuyvesant and Marisa Tomasic, but most of the close-up scenes in the film just weren't realistic. The emotions weren't believable and most of the acting was sub-par. I wondered if Stuyvesant had cut costs by asking friends to act. At least Mary Faktor, who played Stuyvesant's mother, was enjoyable as a loving and wise grandma.

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Teri Stoddard is a single California grandmother who advocates for families. She co-founded the Respite Center for Parent and Child, and offers Shared Parenting Works, a blog Feminist4Fathers, and a free online peer support group Single-Parents- to help parents co-parent. …

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