It has been a long day and the first thing I want to do to relax is watch a movie. But, the question is what movie? While examining my choices, I realize that I have a tendency towards romantic comedies. They are cute, funny, and romantic. They are the perfect go-to movie for me. They are also the movies that I wish I did not love so much.
Romantic comedies, or rom-coms, seem harmless. Typically they do not involve a lot of violence or obscene language. The occasional sex scene may pop up, but other than that they do not pose a threat. Or, do they?
A typical rom-com features a normal woman, probably shy, who through a series of humorous, and sometimes embarrassing, moments ends up with the perfect guy. What is the harm in that? While it may not create a need to shoot down people, these movies could pose as a problem for young women. Hollywood has created an ideal relationship, one that does not focus on the reality of relationships.
Like so many other women, young and old, I want that funny, romantic story. I want the guy from the movie. I want to randomly meet a guy through email like in 1998’s You’ve Got Mail. Or, I want to have a Mr. Darcy fall in love with me like in 2001’s Bridget Jones’s Diary. But, how healthy is it to have those expectations? It is not healthy.
I have an idea built up in my head of what a relationship should be like. It should have some bumps, sure, but it should be fun and sweet. That is not how real relationships work out. A relationship requires so much more work and does not just happen in a span of a month or so.
And, sometimes the guy is not always going to be the perfect man. Just because a couple gets together does not mean that everyone is going to “live happily ever after.” Rarely do rom-coms show past the moment that the main characters love each other.