I will soon be turning 40. I never thought I would go through a mid-life crisis phase, but I feel I may be in the depths of one. I married at the age of 19 and we've been married for almost 21 years. We have two wonderful teen-age daughters and I will graduate college in December.
With all this great stuff going on in my life, why do I feel so empty? I feel suffocated and tied down. I went to the movies last night… alone again. My husband works out of town and the girls are always with their friends. More and more I am finding myself alone, and my eyes are beginning to wander. Recently I've lost 15 pounds, changed my hair style and bought some nicer clothes. I am seriously headed for trouble if I can't pull myself back together.
Please help!! What am I to do?
There is nothing wrong with losing weight, getting a nice haircut and dressing well! What society calls a mid-life crisis, astrologers call the Uranus opposition… and I think you should embrace the change.
And society says these 40-year olds are trying to be 20, but that’s not it. At the time of the Uranus opposition, you realize your time on this planet is limited and there is an urge to break out of a rut – which is exactly what you are doing. And since your transit is applying, you can expect more of the same, so I would expect to continue to progress in this direction… thank goodness!
It’s sort of like re-booting your computer. You’ve got all this gunk and baggage and you want to dump it and live free. And why shouldn’t you? You’ve raised your kids! You’ve shown up for 20 years!
Now specific to your wandering eye, so what? You are noticing others and they are noticing you. This does not mean you are going to act on anything. Maybe it just means you’re becoming more vitally alive.
So I say, just keep doing what you’re doing and allow things to unfold. Go to the movies. If you tire of going alone… if there a void, eventually the universe will fill it. And when you’re talking about Uranus, it will always be in the most unexpected way. So please. Try to relax and enjoy this transition. You are going to be fine. In fact, you are going to be better than ever. It is okay to be free.