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Tragic Loss – Pluto Transit Natal Venus: Astrology-Based Advice

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capriocorn brianElsa,

I’ve recently lost several close relationships due to painful circumstances. Divorce, disease-related death, and death by violence. I’ve also recently moved across the country. I’m normally independent and pretty confident in my abilities, but I feel like I’m struggling right now and I’m not sure how to break through that.

I’m having a really hard time meeting people in my new location, and I feel like I’m doing just barely okay at work. Normally I feel very good about my work, so this bothers me. I feel like I’ve drawn inward emotionally and can’t seem to get back out to make connections and start being happy again.

Any suggestions?
Double Capricorn

Dear Capricorn,

I’m very sorry for your losses. Do you know any astrology? I’m guessing you don’t. But Pluto (death) just crossed your Venus (relationships) in Sagittarius… for the last time. There are two points to make about this.

First, when Pluto transits in aspect to a planet in your chart, a “wipeout” in the area indicated is almost a given. And it’s traumatic, just exactly as you describe. So that’s that.

Secondly, please note this transit has passed. Now I’m not going to make any promises, but it’s very likely that you’ve seen the worst of this. It’s sort of like your forest of friends has already burned to the ground. There is really nothing left to fuel a fire, so what’s left standing at this point is likely to remain so.

So with this analogy… the forest recovers, and so will you. But it doesn’t happen overnight. I had a similar experience some decades ago and I can tell you exactly how it went.

The losses came one after another, just as you describe. I thought I was going to die and I wished I could, but it didn’t happen. I got hit and hit and hit and then I quit getting hit, but had no idea what to do, or who I was or how I felt anymore. This is where you are now. It’s a void.

And the void lasts awhile! In my case, I spent six months of crying myself to sleep, only to wake up and burst into tears. For months! Where is Elsa? Is she ever coming back?

And the forest was coming back, but I couldn’t see it at first. There was no evidence, really. Until there was! In my case, I knew something has shifted the first time a real smile crossed my face. I was at work at a new job. I’d was talking shit on the surface, because I could. And it was a way to throw people off, you know? They think I’m here but I’m really over —> here. But anyway, I’d worked there about a week, when I met Ben.

Ben was an eccentric Scorpio, a flamboyant gay man. I’d heard about him for days before we actually collided. He was really hotting the place the place up, he had everyone in a tizzy. I had considerable energy myself and everyone was anxious we meet. Oil and oil, or oil and water, they wondered.

Well, I met Ben that day and he was a stone cold kick in the pants. He circled around me, sizing me up, while making pithy comments and it was right about there, I smiled. A real smile. And authentic smile. Could it be, I’d found a playmate?


Ben and I formed an unlikely alliance that remains intact to this day, more than two decades later. And this is my point: right now, your landscape is barren. Your flame is on low, like a pilot light… but it’s on. Someone will come along for you, like they did for me and they’ll fan that flame for you. They’ll feed you and you and you will grow – and glow – again.

Much love and good luck.

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  • Justin

    Dear Elsa,

    What a lovely end to your story. Having gone through a similar thing myself (Pluto is in the process of making one last contact with my natal Venus), it’s encouraging to know that there is life after the storm. I was beginning to wonder…

    Thank you for sharing your tale :o) x

  • GeeJoan

    I actually want to share happy Pluto transit my natal Venus. It was a tragic loss at the begining of it. My father died. But all what happened next was just a bliss. I simply gained self worth and I started love myself again and appreciate myself more. Earlier I didn’t believe in myself, so I was afraid to show what I was really able to create (I have creative job). So I always fought with my bosses. I thought they were limiting me and didn’t let me to express myself fully. But during this transit I understood that actually it was me who provoked them to limit me. The same was with love. I didn’t believe that I’m worth to be loved so I did everything to provoke failure. Now I’m happy because I love myself so I believe everything will be OK with my personal and professional life. And actually I think my father made me feel myself worthless and ashamed to show myself and symbolically he died at the beging of this transit. Symbolically because it was like the most important obstacle was removed. But at that moment he wasn’t an obstacle at all. He was just a very sick old man, who was able to show me more love at the end. But maybe this was what started the whole process: his love and acceptance?

    It was a very weired feeling during the last pass through my Venus. I had this last quarell, I felt emotionally drained. I looked at people around and felt like I was in a glass buble separated from them. I felt so lonely, unable to reach them. And then in the middle of a night it was like enlightening. I understood what was going on with me and simply changed my attitude. Once when you become aware of an old mechanism which holds you back you are freed from it.

    So now I look forward for my next Pluto transits.