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The Secret Lives Of Virgos – From Mark Foley to Sophia Loren, They’re All Hiding Something!

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Speaking of the secret lives of Virgo, disgraced politician Mark Foley is a Virgo.

So is Michael Jackson.

So is the very clean Hugh Grant, who was caught cheating on his model girlfriend with a whore, Divine Brown. Whoops!

How are these for examples of secret lives?

And don't go jumping on this because there are other, classier examples. For example, Virgo Sophia Loren:
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Years ago a reporter yelled at her, "Hey Sophia! What are you doing with that old man?" (Carlo Ponti)

"None of your business!" she yelled back.

So there you go. Some Virgos are aware of their secret lives, others delude themselves.

For example, Leonard Cohen, another Virgo, acknowledges his secret life in his song, "In My Secret Life". He does it again in another song, "The Future". But the Mark Foley types are far more common. I mean, he’s an extreme example, but this is the point:

Virgo likes to see themselves as innocent maiden do-gooders. The men as well at the women, this leonard cohenis. So they just deny all the heinous things they do, which are easily as numerous as the rest of the people in the zodiac.

Virgo’s cheat on their taxes, on their husbands and wives. They act like punks just like everybody else in the zodiac and just as frequently.

But you best be careful pointing this out to them because by and large, they won't like it. Virgo wants to be flawless, see. So they project the Pisces, the sign opposite, the sign that knows everything is askew, away from themselves. And this has an unfortunate affect, obviously.

The really smart Virgos embrace and even covet their secret life. And these are the Virgos who have tremendous appeal. Like Sophia Loren.

Isn’t she always pulled together? Look how she presents herself. Perfection! She's a textbook Virgo (Virgin). Can you imagine her showing up for work with her hair messed up from last night's sex? Forget about it! She's a Virgo!

But she doesn't claim sainthood. Obviously she’s drawn to the old man and has been since she was 15. So what do you think they’re up to? Hmm. None of your business!

Compare to Foley, who takes a public stance against what he does in private. Ack! That’s bad Virgo.

So what about you? Come on, Virgos. Speak! Do you have a secret life or not too sure about that? And what about the Virgos the rest of you know. Do you notice they deny the things about them that are not "pristine"?

Tell us!

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  • another virgo

    I’m a Virgo, and yes, I’d agree that I have a “secretive” side. Growing up my mom commented on this character trait a lot, and she was very perceptive. As a kid I wasn’t aware of it, but as a young adult I came to be much more conscious of my “secret life”. It’s not so much that I live a double life. It’s more that I have an outward persona, one that focuses on perfection, innocence, youth, etc. And then I have an inner world where I can explore the darker sides of my personality, usually in private. I get into “trouble” when the lines cross and I let someone into my inner world, or more specifically when I let my inner world becomes a part of my outward actions. The solution for me, and other virgos with this issue, is probably coming up with a healthy way to integrate all the facets of our lives so that we don’t have a secretive side. Private, sure. But secretive is not healthy. Doing this is a lot harder than typing it, though.

    Now, as to your column, I’d be very curious what the rest of the natal charts of your examples look like. The sun sign is important, but what about the rising sign? There may be other astrological factors which make a virgo more or less likely to have such a secretive side divorced from their outward persona.

  • http://elsaelsa.com elsa

    another virgo – that’s a great question and there is all kinds of nuance in the various charts, but I made this bold statement purposefully because I believe this to be universally true of Virgo. I have Virgo in my chart… and as acutely aware as I am of my secret live(s), a friend read this post yesterday and shocked me with this observation…

    I write a lot of true stories, accounts of various experiences I’ve had and have this ability for some reason to recall dialogue, verbatim. From 30 years ago! I can just write the conversation, don’t ask me why or how.

    So anyway, I write about my sister quite a bit and my friend pointed out how she is always smoking. And she was! She lights a cigarette, I hear her inhale over the phone, she calls her husband for a pack of cigs, etc. So the point is, her smoking is part of character, for people who read my stuff. I have been told people imagine her in a cloud of smoke, but here’s the thing.

    At the time, I smoked too! Ha ha ha! But in my stories, I am never lighting a cigarette. How’s that work, Elsa?

    Ha ha ha!

  • virgo

    Virgo here-Its hard to explain but when you really don’t want someone to know something about you, you sort of run away. Its weird but I think I did that. And I think it turns you into a living wimp kind of. Trying to be flawless…or atleast “cool” is so important to me.
    But yeah, I believe the really good virgos just usually let it all hang out. They’re the lucky ones.
    I’m too much of a stiff though…someone hold
    me:(
    Its just hard being a virgo period, its a challenge.

  • Danygirl

    Yes, I too am a virgo! I’ve often had questions, of my actions and my choices. My mother always said, “stop being so secretive!” or ” Why are you always so secretive?”. Sometimes, I really didn’t know I was being “secretive”. I just kept to myself, about a lot that was going on or had happen. Now, that I’ve read this, there is a lot that makes sense to me.

    First off, I never thought about me having a secret life, however now it makes sense. I am a college student now, but before I actually went, I took off 3-years of school. During that time I fell for a guy who was a friend of some friends. This guy was not the best of character for me to be hanging around. Well, to make a long, long story short, this guy, a friend, and I ended up in a car chase w/ police. Due to this guy, who was in trouble every blue moon. Well, after the chase the cops gave me and my other friend a ride home and when I got to my Grand-mothers house were my family was for a cook-out. I said very politly “thank you” to the cops for the ride. I then walked straight into the house like nothing happend and sat down and started talking to my family like I normally would. Still to this day they have idea.

  • tamara

    yet another virgo and i never agree more with what people say about us I am extremely secretive and live in my own world. I am known as the quite child in the family but goes way beyond that. I must agree that I am a perfectionist and yes im smart and i like to study. nitpicking is a big problem with myself. I am very observant but ofcourse keeps most of my thoghts to myself. I am often told that I am self-centered. I often tell people including my parents that they dont know anything about me because I rarely express my emotions except for anger. I get moody sometimes and no-one knows whats wrong. I am secretive with things that are not necessary to hide and i never leave evidence. people think that i am the innocent one some even as a neek but dont know the other side of me. Not that i am bad or anything im admittingly not as good as they think. I often surprise people whose first impression is that im extremely quiet and cocky. If we get really close they will realise that im not as inncoent as they make me out at first and I can be quite loud and sarcastic.

    My point is as i virgo i dont really have a secret life but people might mistake my quietness for innocence . That a good thing =D to sme extent

  • Gin lova

    This is quite true for me in just about every respect….there’s something appealing about keeping something concealed about yourself, and we do it ever so easily, and we’re quite magnetic….it makes you wonder about the real content of the Virgoan mind…I dont really show my TRUE depth of feeling and instead I FEEL the feeling but I SPEAK the words associated with the feeling, but I don’t do both at once…..if you express what you feel at that moment, you let it out….

  • anunitu

    I am a pisces female and have been in a relationship with a virgo man for over 10 months now. There has been something throughout this time that has bothered me, that has made me feel miserable. He seems to be able to make me feel so bad, worse than my capricorn ex who was not an easy one to be with but nontheless had a quiet sincere nature that I respected and admired. I don’t like to compare but with my ex I had a strong and deep connection and although we had problems and managed to even do horrible things to each other we always tried until the very end, to the last breath to work through everything, the unimaginable to stay together through pain, doubt, distances, through my periods of isolation, through his moments of apathy.
    Whereas the virgo male I am with now stays on the surface of any conflict, wants to be seen as the one who is immune to unfaithfulness, immune to “dumping” anyone he is in love with: he constantly says “you’ll be the one to dump me, I could never do it to you.” But please, what does that even mean? Anything can happen! He wants to be viewed as talented and sensitive and sensual and emotional and the one with true devotion but in my opinion almost sucks in all those areas. Suffering from low self-esteem doesn’t excuse him from constantly bragging. O_O – He will go to such lengths as to say he “gives” to me more than I ever gave to him. Then flip when I say tell him to be careful when saying such things, even if you think them, you should be more humble, you praise yourself a little too much.
    He yells and says horrible things and just flips like there’s no tomorrow. Acting like he’s perfect while knowing he’s not because I’m sure he kills himself with critique – but come on! The world knows you’re not a saint!
    He is on a 3-day trip right now with his friends, we had a fight before he left and he is not answering my messages. He gets offended easily and won’t admit he is which hurts me as a person but even more so being a pisces: if you constantly tell me I am wrong when I try so hard to interpret your feelings to work around them and to help you it brings me down, it destroys me.
    Plus I know him so well (although he thinks he hides so well) that I know he could cheat one me on this trip just to boost his self-esteem. I do think he might have already. The problem is even if he doesn’t, how will I ever be able to trust him if he will only act out a scene, saying he is Mr. forever faithful (btw, I had to swear on my miserable life I had never cheated on him). And I know for a fact he won’t break down and tell me like my ex has. I hate him sometimes. I hate him so much. For always acting so altruistic, then being so egocentric that a capricorn mama would be proud of him for!
    Is it bad and self-destructive to be proud of being able to confront my dark side and my demons? I’ve only found it comforting to know I can be bad as well as good, beautiful and ugly and I am able to show the world because I know and I’m not hiding it. It’s so hard to be with someone who is not capable of doing that. Someone so superficial, someone who is becoming boring by the minute, someone who only seems to see the good side of things, afraid to truly let go and get deeper. But how do I explain to him that he has to let go if he will only shut me out and say I’m crazy. He views me as depressed and suicidal. I say he’s ignorant and afraid to truly get to know me.
    Life is easy for virgos although they will always show you how hard life has been on them and point out how many times they have been cheated on! But beware to ask them if THEY have ever done anything bad!!
    Is a complex and sensitive pisces prepared to live on the surface and accept the ignorant do-goodness of the virgo partner, to keep his/hers virgo happy?

  • anunitu

    thank you Elsa for bringing this up! Only a few daring souls would defend a pisces against a virgo, but like with all the signs it can go both ways, they can all be hurtful in different ways. Only there’s been too many blogs around with too many lonely virgos sitting there at night drinking their beers or bottles of wine pouring they’re hearts out complaining constantly about they’re pains so now that I am in pain I hope someone empathizes with me for a change.
    All the best to you!

    anunitu

  • stella

    I hate being a virgo, because, I hate being in control, Its said virogs yearn control, but I honestly dont. Im not really a perfectionist, but in some ways I guess I am. but i am very secretive, I know who I am, but I dont dish that out because I feel the need for exceptance, and since no one excepts what little I put out, and I dont like being in the spotlight. and it seems like everyone is just there to judge you, I am not one to quickly judge people, although right away, I can spot peoples weaknesses. But I am mainly about love and exceptance. and I have a hard time trusting peole. I cant socialize, and I dont even want to, I just enjoy being alone exploring my darker side, I am very very drawn to art, or music, thats probably why I am so very attracted to pisces, like kurt cobain, who is my main influence. I admire thier artistic abilities, and quiet side. virgos could learn much from a pisces I have, vise versa.

  • stella

    I must add on.
    the reason I live in my own little world is because I have bottled things up for years and years and still do, and never say a thing. I would feel like a creep for spilling out all of my insecurities that have plagued me my whole life. Because I really dont think anyone would understand.

  • ant

    Stella, you pretty much and everyone else explained how virgos are. I strive for perfection. I hate the flaws in our lives. I can be very self centered arrogant. I love being in control. I’ve been dumped for having a controlling issue.

  • Samurai of Chuck Norris’ Demise

    Yup, Virgo here. Just turned 16 today and I must admit, this article is very, very true. We do love to be seen as perfect and saints, so our secret lives shalt stay secretive! Anunitu, most Virgos are like that, hell, I’m like that at times. I dunno why we are, but we just are.

  • nailbiter

    “you’ll be the one to dump me, I could never do it to you.”

    That is exactly what I told my gf but deep down I’m scared I am capable of doing it. Now, I’m not lying on purpose but rather just don’t trust myself. Striving for perfection but never really achieving it, I guess that’s where alcoholism and other addiction comes in. Best advice to virgos – we have to be SPECIALLY cautious about our criticisms and judgments around our loved ones.

  • janice

    Wow until today, reading this I thought this was an issue I had alone but to see that I’m not; makes me not want to be so hard on myself. It really does suck being a Virgo. Besides everything else you guys said being true I do think that Virgos also may have an issue with expressing their feelings and I think it has a lot do with being a perfectionist (scared to say the wrong thing or what the reaction may be from people), and with that being said it has cause problems in relationships. For example: for some strange apparent reason I keep ending up with Cancers which are very clingy and strong lovers. Although, I like the love part, I dislike clingy/attention part it brings attention to me which I also don’t like, because Virgo’s tend to stay out the light.

    One other thing I would like to point out is as easy as life for us may seem to everybody else being a Virgo is extremely stressful because although a Virgo knows what they want out of life and how to get it, they actually make it hard for ourselves. Virgo’s are always trying to please others and/or put others before themselves to feel accepted.

    But for others yes Virgo’s dislikes attention but love to feel that people is appreciative for the small things they do for you. So if a Virgo feel like you appreciate what ever it is they do, you really don’t have much to worry about.

  • virgo08

    im also a virgo and only half of what the astrology says that i am..im not..im not secretive at all im not a neat freak but i am health conscious..and i would have to say i am extremely picky as to who i hang out with and who i date..i dont have anything to hide. what u see is what u get..im very straight forward and highly analytical..i find my self always asking why. im very outspoken and i dnt care what ppl think. if i have an opinion trust me ud kno lol but all im saying is that there’s a difference between jus wanting to be by yourself in your own space and according to our horoscopes we “dont have many friends” and with that bein said to alot of ppl we mite seem secretive when in actually we just like our own space and don’t like a vast variety of ppl in our personal lives. i wouldn’t say that’s secretive. hell who would want someone constantly trying to b all up in ur biz? and that’s with all zodiac signs..im mad they jus tried to single us out. if u think about it maybe the things ur “secretive” about is something ur insecure about…i don’t try to paint no pretty picture for no one..at times i love being by myself and other times im need of being around ppl…i cant stand how they try to make Virgos seem all boring..WRONG! bc im EXTREMELY romantic..i aim to please in the bedroom as well as emotional..and im very emotional…i love goin to parties and especially dancing but the Virgo part of me wud go and have fun but wont think to hook up wit anyone there seeing as i want some1 who is serious which in my case is kinda contradictory lol..i enjoy being around plenty ppl as long as there isn’t any drama..i avoid that at all costs..idk..i jus hate how they try to make us seem..everyone is secretive in some sort of manner

  • virgodog58

    I don’t know if it is secretiveness exactly but I think I am pretty good at appearing “sweet and innocent” when really I’m not! So maybe I would make a good criminal if only I wasn’t so worried about getting caught!

  • Dan

    Virgodog58..

    The fear of getting caught, is actually what makes you sweet and innocent. Virgos play victim way too much. Please just accept your perfectionist qualities and relax. Enjoy life and just be who you! Please!!!

  • Dan

    sorry… Are:)

  • Virgo drifter…

    I thought people cheat because they grow apart from there relationship with the person they grew to love. Never can we possess the people we love if we can’t possess ourselves.

    Being a male virgo and being close with several male virgos, they makes me laugh at their one-sidedness. How they bend themselves backwards to please their family, friends, and co-workers with wit, knowledge, and support, only so they can be let down by their own illusion of what they perceive as an ideal family, friends and co-workers. So selfish are they, mocking a family member for every flaw (disagreement) they challenge. Being a virgo, I do not only see but UNDERSTAND quite clearly how they beat themselves down to please themselves by pleasing others…

    I am a drifter. I am a very difficult person to settle down with and engage in deep conversations. Never once have I told people I am lonely or alone but rather independent. Connecting with people is very easy, but that bond quickly fades because of my instability. I can’t help it, I enjoy my independence. From romance to acquaintances, I go through people like a short-tale children’s book, easy, fun and quickly. Several people get on my nerves, and I have gotten on theirs, but I accept my/their anger, my/their sadness, my/their happiness, and my/their acceptance to accept the intentions/feelings of others, even if their/my choices are self-destructive…

    How? Feelings never remain the same, they always change whether we like them to change or not.

    I am 20, a virgin *doesn’t bother me if I am* (got a BJ though… ;) So a half-virgin? ha), and been in a real heart opening relationship with (a pisces).
    I thank her for teaching me a lesson and I love her for that. The lesson was this, “She is an idiot and the next relationship I have with a Women, I will make sure it isn’t with someone like her haha.”

    The real lesson was that she wanted me to be somebody I am not, and I wanted her to be somebody that she is not.

    Obviously, it didn’t work out, ah well ha.

    NEVER TRY TO MOLD PEOPLE.

    Relationships work when people mold into the relationship and vise versa, but never do they work if one person must mold into the relationship of their partner… power struggles begin to emerge.

    ANYWAYS, She moved on and so did I… It’s all gravy.

    I understand that if people idealize their partner then they aren’t really in love with what they know or see, but what they wish to know or see…

    This includes fixing, molding or wishing their lover to be different… in order to benefit themselves, not accepting their partner to be themselves. Its selfishness not companionship.

    Its very simple.

    I know this will annoy some of you, but if there is something we can learn from our virgo-selves then maybe the next time we are about to selfishly disappoint ourselves by using other people to make ourselves happy then – maybe – instead of pleasing people, we can sit back and please ourselves and learn more about ourselves…

    Who knows, the happiest people are the ones who are most happiest with themselves.

  • VICKY

    THE WORST THING TO HAPPEN TO A VIRGO IS A TAURUS LET ME TELL U. MY EX WAS MARRIED AND GOT ME PREGNANT WITHOUT ME KNOWING HE HADNT DIVORCED! HOW DID HE DO THIS? WITH ALOT OF SICK TWISTED LIES. I FOUND OUT HE WAS CHEATING AT 7 MTHS PREGNANT AND LEFT HIM. THEN HE COMES BACK 6 MONTHS LATER AND HE CHEATS AGAIN BUT THIS TIME I TALK TO HIS GIRLFRIED. SHE SAYS SHES BEEN WITH HIM 4 YEARS AND SHE KNREW ABOUT ME AND TELLS ME ANTHONY IS STILL MARRIED AND THAT HE HAS 4 OTHER GIRLFIENDS AND THE WIFE AND HE HAS KIDS WITH ALL OF US. WHEN I TRY TO CONFRONT HIM HE HIDES. HE BLOCKS MY CALLS. BUT HE CANT BLOCK MY TEXTS IN WICH I VERY EXPLICITLY TELL HIM OFF FOR ALL HIS LIES AND DECEIVING WAYS BUT HE WONT RESPOND, I KNOW HIS SCARED. AND HE KNOWS HE DID WRONG. WHY CANT HE GO TO JAIL I ASK GOD? MY SON IS 3 MONTHS AND HE HAS NEVER ASKED TO SEE HIM. BUT WHEN PEOPLE ASK HIM ABOUT US HE DENIES EVER KNOWING ME AND MY SON.HIS SECRET LIFE RUINED MY VIRGINITY AND LEFT A BASTARD SON. VIRGOS PLEASE DONT HURT US WOMEN ANYMORE. WE DONT DESERVE TO SUFFER FOR UR PLEASURE AND OUR SONS NEED A FATHER. AND UR FAMILIES ARENT PROUD OF UR SECRETS EITHER. BUT GOD SEES US ALL AND AT LEAST TO HIM U STAND BEARING ALL THE CONSEQUENCES.

  • virgo_love223

    Yes and I’m very good at keeping it a secret . I am literally sophia to a tee .