I live in the basement apartment of a house, owned by a man I used to be in a relationship with. He has a 15-year-old son who I've become close to, and he is very close to my 4-year-old son.
The situation is difficult because we have all of the challenges of managing a relationship, but I feel like the sacrifices we make are worth it because it is the best thing for the children.
Last week, the 15-year-old revealed to me that he is interested in boys as well as girls, sexually. His father is quite homophobic and is going to have a hard time with this. He is one of the most loving fathers I've ever known, but I know this will be difficult for him to assimilate.
I want to continue to support the teen and his father, but it is excruciatingly difficult for me at times. I have no romantic interest in the man at all at this point and that seems quite mutual. We are very different and it isn't an easy partnership, but where the children are concerned, I think we both shine.
The most urgent question is: how do I help the teenager with the things he's dealing with. Beyond that, I could really use some help maintaining this delicate balance.
You did not elaborate, so I am not sure why this is excruciatingly difficult for you. I don’t think it would cause me a problem at all, so I’ll offer my perspective and maybe it will alter yours.
First, you are living next to two individuals. That they are a father and son is irrelevant. One of them, the son, decided to confide in you. And considering you’re a double Scorpio, I imagine he made a good decision. I don’t think you are going to betray him, that is. And you didn’t go screaming from the room when a fifteen year old wanted to talk about sex. Taboo sex this is, at least in his immediate environment, so I think he made a good decision in sharing this with you.
So where is the problem? Is it all this mutable energy in your chart? The mutable signs want to communicate and perhaps you think you need to pass this information along. Well, you don’t.
I think we have responsibility in this life to ourselves and the people around us. This kid needs support from someone he can trust. Let that be you, and you will both be empowered. From there, just move along with the rest of your day.
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