Going to college is one of the biggest steps in a young adult’s life. Moving away can be the first time someone has ever gotten the chance to live on their own and be an individual. Your parents are no longer nagging at you to do your homework or telling you to make curfew. This all might sound like a perfect situation for most 18-year-olds, but you might realize that it’s not as great as it sounds.
When you first get to college, the amount of freedom you have can be overwhelming. All the social events can become a first priority quickly, until you start to realize that you have homework, no food, and your laundry is piling up. Reality hits you that your mom isn’t there to do all these things for you.
Though mom may not be there in your dorm you picking up after you, it’s still important to keep in touch. Today there are so many ways of staying connected, either through Facebook, e-mail, or cell phones, that there is no excuse to not have time to have a five-minute conversation with a family member. Use a study break or the walk to class to send a quick text message, and they’ll realize you care.
If you live close to home, it’s much easier to designate a day out of each week or month when you can go home to see your family. It may not be your favorite thing to do on a weekend, but it’s important to still be an active member in your family. If you can’t make it to your house, invite your parents to come up and visit for dinner. Most parents don’t want to invade their child’s college freedom with making plans, but an invite would show how much you wanted them to come.
Being far away from home is one of the toughest things when going to college. You may not get to see your family until Thanksgiving break or even Christmas. This is where communication comes into play because it may be your only connection. Invite your parents up for the university’s family weekend or have them come up and tailgate for a big game. There are many options if you can’t make it home to make sure your parents can get a quick glimpse of your college experience.
I consider family one of the most important things in my life. Making plans to have dinner with siblings once a week has kept my family close. Even though I do enjoy being independent of my parents, I still miss home. They may not tell you they want you to come home, but most parents still want to feel like they’re needed. Make a point to make sure you stay in touch and try to make it home on a regular basis.