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She’s Sexually Frustrated and Unsatisfied – Incompatible Sex Drives: Astrology-Based Advice

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mars warriorHi Elsa,

My boyfriend and I are opposites in many ways. Our common ground seems to be shrinking and our sex drives, while always mismatched, are vastly different now. He seems to be content with a largely platonic relationship while I need to connect with someone sexually in order to maintain a feeling of closeness.

I think that in order for me to be happy and have my needs met, something has to change. Either we need to work out the differences, or I’m going to need an open relationship so that my needs for intimacy are met elsewhere.

Do you see either of these possibilities as likely, or should I start planning a life without him?


Dear Unsatisfied,

Yeah, no. I’m sorry. I wish I had something wise to say, or there was some miracle on deck, but no. I don’t think the cavalry is going to save you on this. Is this guy going to spring up like a cheetah and become a five alarm fire? He’s not. Are you going to cool down and learn to live without sex? I hope not. Because you have some serious Marsy energy, and it needs an outlet. Just how pissed off are you, right now? How frustrated?

You know all this of course, and in fact I think you’re already grieving the loss of relationship. Do you know the steps in the grieving process? One of them is deal-making, and this is what you’re trying to do with the “open relationship” idea. You’re trying to strike a deal so you don’t have to do what ultimately will be inevitable – break up the relationship, because it just doesn’t work.

But you’ve learned something here. The next time you go out hunting (and you do HUNT men), understand you are randy as a pony and bring home a very horny man that complements. Get it? Don’t settle.

Good luck.

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  • i just want to ask for some advise about making love. i’m a 24 year old guy,living in laguna, pilippines. jus t want to ask if what can i do to make my girl come first? she always hate me when i come first. i am upset with that and i know she is very upset too. please help me.

  • Rohit sharma

    I love my wife but I want some more like watching bf and having sex in ndifferent style but she hardly agrees pl tell me should I have extra affairs

  • friend

    only getting sex is not the solution, in fact you need a person who loves you in all ways , sexually , mentally and all other ways possible, sex without love is of no use . think over it .

  • gig

    You definitely have two choice out here – yes move for an open relation . But whats the guarantee out here that this new guy would last and will satisfy you . Take the challenge with this existing guy . May be he is stuck with some inhibitions . Or may be he wants you to get dominant and take him on , may be a little imposition . try it out . get what u want , without inhibitions . just get it . make him do it . might work . else the last choice is …….as u said . all the best .

  • sanjeev agarwal

    i am 29 years young boy can satisfy in all the way . i am living i agra and i am master in sex relationship. i will give you full enjoyment every night [Personal contact info deleted]