No, really, if she says no regularly then that’s a good indication that she isn’t enjoying sex. Women love sex just as much as men do. If it’s good, women love to shag. Of course, she hasn’t told you you’re not satisfying her. Women will talk to each other about how crappy you are, but won’t tell you. Why? Well, do you really want the woman you love (or whatever) to tell you that you can’t shag and frankly she would rather have a nice hot bath and masturbate while thinking of Brad, George, Ewan, or Johnny? Of course she isn’t going to tell you! So I am![ADBLOCKHERE]
If you think you don’t need to know this, because you don’t have a girlfriend or partner (or other), there’s probably a reason that you don’t. Also, women love to gossip about the men at the pubs and clubs they go to. Like who’s good, who’s not, who to avoid, who to buy a drink for and then pull into the nearest cab. So, it really is in your best interest to read this and remember it! I have given this same advice to many male friends. Believe me, they do help.
There are a few basic things all men need to know.
- Your tongue is NOT an electric whisk. Slow down already! For some reason, many men think that when they are kissing you, the faster and deeper their tongue is, the better. BULLSHIT! It isn’t a race and you’re not mining for coal. I’m a person and I need to breathe. This is really important! Women know that if a man is good at kissing, then he is usually good in bed. That is almost an absolute given.
- How a woman touches you is how she wants to be touched. (Told you this is good stuff!) When you go in for the kiss and she softly touches your cheek or the back of your neck – she is showing you where she wants you to touch her and how. Pay attention to her reactions. You will be able to tell if she is enjoying herself or not. If she isn’t, she’ll let you know. She will also let you know where to touch her. Follow her lead.
- Flat tongues are better for licking. Think of licking an ice cream cone. Your tongue should cover as much surface area as possible. How would you want her to lick your cock? With a small pointy tongue, she’s not writing her name. When you have your tongue in a woman’s fanny (for the Americans that is the word for pussy in Britain – brings a whole new purpose to mind when someone says fanny pack), kissing this is not a race. Take your time. And a little deep mining there is always appreciated.
- Tell her what you’re thinking! Women want to know. Why do you think we ask you so often (other than the vain hope of finding intelligence there somewhere)? This also applies in bed. Tell her you love the way she kisses, you love how soft her skin is, that her hair smells good, tell her she tastes good. I personally love it when my husband tells me (right after entering me) how good I feel, how much he loves being inside me. Women like to hear these things. It makes us feel sexy and confident.
And my final tip (for now) is a general one.
These are general rules. All women are different of course and like different things. But these should help. And if this helps just one woman…it will all be worth it.