One of the most priceless lines I ever heard was "We have been more intimate online than we ever could be in person." Answer? THAT'S NOT POSSIBLE EVEN IN A QUANTUM UNIVERSE!
20-Mix Pleasure with Pain
The greatest mistake in seduction is being too nice. At first, perhaps, your kindness is charming, but it soon grows monotonous; you are trying too hard to please, and seem insecure. Instead of overwhelming your targets with niceness, try inflicting some pain. Lure them in with focused attention, then change direction, appearing suddenly uninterested. Make them guilty and insecure. Even instigate a breakup, subjecting them to an emptiness and pain that will give you room to maneuver-now a rapprochement, an apology, a return to your earlier kindness, will turn them weak at the knees. The lower the lows you create, the greater the highs. To heighten the erotic charge, create the excitement of fear.
Heard any of THESE lines? "If you want I will go away and not chat with you anymore" or "if this relationship is causing you pain, maybe we should end it" are they pulling away and trying to make it seem like your idea or they are doing you a favor? Have they spent time online with you waxing poetic about a past girl/boyfriend as if that person was 'the one that got away'; And you feel like chopped liver after listening to that 'confession'? Or was your online fun interrupted by reality and that person said "my partner found out" and disappeared, blocking you & your emails? Or that "its best we don't talk for a while" and IF and when they return they "missed you so much." Do they seem to play come to me-go away? As if they can't 'make up their minds' to be with you? Have you tried to cut it off only to have them email you or people you both know BEGGING you to talk to them again?
21-Give Them Space to Fall: The Pursuer is Pursued
If your targets become too used to you as the aggressor, they will give less of their own energy, and the tension will slacken. You need to wake them up, turn the tables. Once they are under your spell, take a step back and they will start to come after you. Begin with a touch of aloofness, an unexpected nonappearance, a hint that you are growing bored. Stir the pot by seeming interested in someone else. Make none of this explicit; let them only sense it and their imagination will do the rest, creating the doubt you desire. Soon they will want to possess you physically, and restraint will go out the window. The goal is to have them fall into your arms of their own will. Create the illusion that the seducer is being seduced.