It is with a very heavy heart and mascara-tainted tear stains on my cheeks that I have to tell you that AB 1307, California's shared parenting bill, was murdered today. I now understand exactly what the fathers have described when they write about sitting there listening to the opposition lying. It was obvious that their first witness hadn't even read the bill. If she did she was hoping the legislators hadn't. I heard all of the old lies that I read on the radicial feminist websites. I'm more and more embarrassed to be female. And I really don't like feeling this way.
I won't give up. I can't stop. Every day I find more people who want to join us. In the ladies restroom of the Hyatt today I met some college students who were at the capital lobbying for educational funding. After a 30 second conversation they wanted information so they can post flyers at their college. Whoever it was who said that college students care.... he was right. And these were girls. One girl said her generation is the first raised by sole single moms, and they know that it's not the best option.
This liberal father-loving feminist grandmother has just begun to fight!
I'd like to share my last blog post with you, an article written by our new friend Doug. He, like so many, had assumptions about fathers that just weren't true. We turned him around. I hope I can do the same with all of you.
Teri
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Feminist4Fathers
Saturday, April 30, 2005
Column sparks ire of many
IMAGINE A little girl growing up without her dad. She misses him. She wonders why he doesn't come by anymore. There is a longing in her heart that won't go away. She cries herself to sleep at night.
Imagine the dad, a good and loving dad, wanting to see his daughter grow up. But he can't, for various reasons. There is a longing in his heart that won't go away. He cries himself to sleep at night.
Imagine the mom, who is angry and bitter at the dad for whatever reason and uses the court system to keep him away. Maybe he was an abusive husband once, or he cheated on her while they were married. Maybe she's just angry at the world and takes it out on her daughter's father.
Article comments
1 - Teri
I'd like you to meet some of my friends...
http://feminist4fathers.blogspot.com/
2 - Lary Holland
Anyone that has seen my children during their stay with their absentee mother and then see them during their time with Dad, particularly a Social Worker for PS, says it's like they are different children all together! They are more spoken, not introverted or shy at all, confident, accomplished, etc.
I truly love my children, while everyone else "cares" for my children while they toss them in and out of day care each week and try to occupy their time and keep them busy and away from Dad. There is a difference between true love and one who says they "care" for their children as I have seen in the world. The one that "cares" just says they care, but their actions are empty and forced as duty and obligation to stay in control, where the one that has true love is full of action and wonderful results in the time with their children. This can be demonstrated MANY MANY times over in custody disputes where Dad is deduced to visitor status, but truly loves his child(ren) and it can be seen as slowly being eroded while the one who "cares" slowly tries to break the bonds of true love in their jealousy and misunderstanding why the children loves in return of true love and not the empty care.
For those single parents out there, know the difference between care and true love. The children do.