"I don't want to be, i don't want to be me. . .anymore"- Type-O-Negative
Yah think that's how Jim McGreevey is feeling right now? Supposedly he is feeling in very high spirits since his admission that he is gay and had an extramarital affair.
What about his wife? His kids? His family altogether?
Big deal McGreevey is gay. Good for him. It's great that he got the lie he was hiding all these years off his chest, but i am sure that doesn't make his wife feel any better. The poor woman was paraded up in front of all the media yesterday,why? Why couldn't McGreevey just go out there on his own? Was he using her like he's used her these past years?
Let's face it, McGreevey didn't want to come out and say he was gay years ago because he would not be able to further his political career. By getting married and having children he gave off the image of a normal family man. Hell he was even divorced once, look at how normal that is.
Even amid the rumors that followed him throughout his political career, albeit quietly, he was always able to point to his family and go;
Look, i'm not gay! Kids, wife the whole deal !!! I'm not gay no way.
His family was his backup plan. To me that is selfish and it's just not fair. Did he ever for once think of the trauma inflicted on his family if anyone ever found out? It's not like he is Jos Schmoe in suburbia, he was the friggin Governor. Big difference there.
What if she knew? What if his wife knew about this and hid it herself? That's just as wrong.
This doesn't end with his family now. He is a gay Governor and his every move will be scrutinized even more. Every more he makes unitl November 15th is under a microscope. Take for instance the issue of gay marriage.
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1 - boomcrashbaby
I'm not sure which it is in the Gov.'s case, but either he realized his sexuality late in life or he was closeted in order to avoid ostracism.
In the first case, while I can't comprehend it, it happens to millions every year. In the second case, I do not blame the closet on the individual as much as I do, an intolerant society. The individual handles it wrong, yes, but only because handling it right can destroy a person, although less so today than in the past.
Let's face it, McGreevey didn't want to come out and say he was gay years ago because he would not be able to further his political career
While this is possible, it is actually not likely. It's a remote possibility at best.
If he legalizes gay marriage,/i>
He is on record as opposing gay marriage, but supporting civil unions that are 100% the equivalent. Whether he opposes marriage in his heart, we can't say, maybe he does, maybe he knows it's political suicide right now.
What is the most frustrating thing of all, is that we have a society that does not want to recognize same-sex relationships, that condemns gay people from teaching positions or political positions of power, that ostracizes gay youth and can many times kick them out of their own home, that uses gay terminology in a derogatory manner on a daily basis from the school halls to television, many feel gay people are unfit to raise children, I could go on and on....BUT then after all this, people don't understand why some gay people hide in the closet that society creates for them, and they look down on the individual for doing so.
2 - boomcrashbaby
ooops.
3 - Mike Kole
McGreevey did gays a huge disservice by making being gay the reason for his resignation. I'm not sure what else he could do after leading a double life for so long, but I would have much rather had him announce that he is gay and stay in office, and let the chips fall where they may. What message does the resignation give to gay people who want to be office holders?
4 - boomcrashbaby
He didn't make being gay the reason he resigned, Mike. He is facing the possibility of sexual harassment lawsuits (which may not be filed now that he is resigning), he is accused of giving his lover a Homeland Security job with no qualifications or background check, he was facing extortion for all this, and he had an extramarital affair, regardless of the gender. That is why he resigned. Not because he's gay.
5 - garybibb
I don't believe he made being gay the reason why he resigned. He just needed to clarify the reason why he was going to be sued for sexual harrasment. Now what i do see alot of are subtitles like a gay Democrat. Why?
6 - Mike Kole
Boom- I get that now, but from watching the bits of the press conference that were first reported, it came off as, "I'm gay, ergo, I resign". Well, that's Headline News for you.
7 - Shark
He was a crook and a liar. Fuck him.
End of story.
8 - Dan
Looks like a little smoke-screen move to me. He's quick to play his newly aquired gay victim-hood card as a mis-direction tactic to avoid more serious charges. Just to add more dishonor, he's waiting until after the November elections to resign. Democrats, what else is new?
9 - RJ
"Don't get me wrong, i do feel bad for the guy. It's a shame that you can't be openly gay in this day and age, and still be able to be the Governor."
Who says? We have openly-gay Congressmen. Who's to say the public would not elected an openly gay Governor?
This wasn't about him "outing" himself because he was "tired of living a lie" or any such thing. He's run a highly-corrupt administration, and is not being accused of sexual harrassment, as well as hiring an unqualified person to a very important position simply for sex. Oh, and he has now destroyed two women (his wife and his former wife) by living this lie.
And NOW, he is delaying his "resignation" in order to keep a Republican challenger off the ballot.
Face it, this guy is lying, corrupt, partisan scum.
Gays should not hold this man up as some kind of "hero." There are countless gay men and women in this country who are FAR better people than him.
10 - RJ
I'm not sure which it is in the Gov.'s case, but either he realized his sexuality late in life or he was closeted in order to avoid ostracism.
In the first case, while I can't comprehend it, it happens to millions every year.
"Millions" where? In the US? That's not true. But maybe worldwide...
11 - RJ
"Looks like a little smoke-screen move to me. He's quick to play his newly aquired gay victim-hood card as a mis-direction tactic to avoid more serious charges. Just to add more dishonor, he's waiting until after the November elections to resign. Democrats, what else is new?"
Amen.
Democrats, at least in NJ, apparently have no shame.
See Torricelli...
12 - boomcrashbaby
In the first case, while I can't comprehend it, it happens to millions every year.
"Millions" where? In the US? That's not true. But maybe worldwide..
No, RJ. I meant in college campuses all across Florida.
13 - RJ
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14 - boomcrashbaby
RJ, I only caught the partial sentence in the recent comments section. that wasn't a direct comment to you. I meant it more like 'look over your shoulder'. Lighten up.
15 - RJ
Uh-huh...sure...
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17 - Mac Diva
Person of the same gender?
(Can't resist finishing a cut-off sentence.) Not that there is anything wrong with a person of the same gender, if you are gay. But, if you aren't. . . . The latest is that the 'victim' claims not to be gay. Says he traveled to another country and accepted cushy jobs from a gay lover for no reason. (He also denies being an opportunist.) The story is getting way out there. I'll have more to say about this when I write a blog entry.