After reading an article several months ago about Nadya Suleman, I decided I would write one more article about her and the 14 pink and blue babies taking up three cars while moving around the Game of Life board, and never mention her again. It's kind of like the vow of silence Snake Eyes took after watching his master murdered in front of his eyes by his supposed brother. If something makes you ill enough, you have to take a stand!
In my last article about Nadya I said, "Nadya is an example of irresponsibility and selfishness at its peak." "She is an attention-seeking, narcissitic individual who cannot grasp reality, or simply be comfortable in her own skin."
I know you are all thinking, "Well, Heather, why did you break your silence?"
The reason I broke it is simple; I am a sucker for anyone who realizes their mistake, admits it, and wants to move on because there is nothing else they can do. I have made so many of my own mistakes that who am I to not let go of someone else's? She owns them, she owned up to them, and now it is time to move on.
Nadya admitted that having eight more children, adding to the six she already had, was a mistake. She told US Weekly magazine, "I think it was a mistake — in terms of the well-being of the octuplets and my other kids. I can't give myself to them 100%… if I'd known that, I never would have fathomed eight more."
I know, a little too late now! She did go on to talk about how much she loves them and they are here now, and it is time to move on.
There are going to be so many ramifications for these children from their mother's decision, but the good news is that Nadya seems to be awakening from La-La Land. I was thinking she was Alice In Wonderland for awhile. She is finally starting the descent back down to earth from the puffy cloud she was living on. That can only be good for the children.
I pray that she will somehow manage to establish a loving, compassionate, and empathetic home that raises 14 children who can contribute to society and finally give their mother the love that she has obviously been searching for her whole life.
We all have choices to make. No one, and I mean no one, makes the right choice 100% of the time! I have made so many bad choices in my life that if I was given a quarter every time I chose left when I should have gone right or right when I should have gone left, I would be richer than Oprah and living on Maui watching the sunset, drinking a margarita while sitting on my lanai right now! Instead, I am sitting in my home office, with three screaming children running up and down the hallway outside my office door while the dog barks incessantly and the cat is meowing for food
What I did get was clarification from my choices on where I am supposed to go and how I am supposed to get there. To me choices are just that. Don't hang your hat up on a bad one. Instead, embrace the choices you have made if they are good ones. If you made some bad choices, learn from them, and if you made a choice but could have made a better one, remember that the next time you are in a dilemma. Choices and dilemmas never go away, they just – we hope – get easier as we learn and grow in this crazy world.
I feel that Nadya finally owned up to her choice. It is time to move on. She has learned a hard lesson. We do not need to judge or condemn her any longer. She has judged herself, and her sentence is long hours with little sleep, no alone time, no life, and a world peering into her life daily while slowly dissecting it one child at a time.