I know that you can rationalize all you want as to why you ought love someone and you and I both know that if the chemistry ain’t there in the kissin’, well, it isn’t them you’ll be missin’ because that relationship is over. There has to be some chemistry to make it work and it is there in the kiss. Let me give you some logical reasons if you are the sort that needs logic and thinks me the soppy romantic and so on. We know for a fact that pheromones play a huge role as to why we are attracted to who we are attracted to. It is our sense of smell reacting to them. Sometimes our pheromones find a mate with theirs somehow (magic! Alchemy!) and voila, they want you and you want them but you can’t sort out why but it’s not up to you – you caught the scent of him, he of you, and boom, you are done for.
Your brain got intoxicated by the smell of the other and you got an endorphin rush, and I believe oxytocin is released as well, another powerful chemical that are all like opiates to your brain and have the same effect as opiates: You feel good. You feel dizzy, dreamy, soppy, and high in his or her presence. When they are gone, you want more, more, more. You are a junkie for their love. For their smell. Kissing brings you closer to their smell. Apparently, if I recall this correctly (I read this a while ago, so I have to double check on this, but I believe this is correct), we have a lot of our scent around our nose fold and our mouth and lips. It makes sense that we would want to connect with that other person in this way if we are drawn to their smell, we would go there. So, it’s in his kiss has some logic to it. I prefer to just believe that there is no logic to love at all – that brain chemistry or not – whatever it is that makes that happen in the first place – Eros – is born of the gods.
"It Must Be Love" by Rickie Lee Jones – So after saying the above, I am with Rickie Lee on this. What can you say but this – “It’s you and me…that’s where I wanna be….oh, it must be love…” I can only take so much Rickie Lee Jones, but when I like her I really like her. I feel the same exact way about Joni Mitchell and they remind me of each other a little bit – or my response to them is similar. I think Joni Mitchell can be tremendous and she does what she does, that whole Joni-Mitchell-Blue-I-Could-Drink-A-Case-of-You-River thing really, really well and you are there with in the moment.