There have been tremendous forces acting in opposition towards the institutions of marriage and the church. Both of these two globally recognized entities are as old as the history of the people who live in the communities where they are found. I believe over the years that man as a living being has missed the key characteristic that is responsible for the continued successful operations of marriage and of the church.
When and how did marriage start? All evidence agreed upon will indicate the first union of man and woman in Eden when God brought Eve to Adam. That was a defining ceremony for all of human kind to follow. It is important that God as Creator set the pace for His creation. Humans were then to follow the pattern of coming together with the one person of the opposite sex who would become a life partner. The words “till death do us part” in the modern marriage ceremony indicate a God dependent covenant.
So, clearly, marriage was put in place by God.
But what about the Church? How was it started? The life of Jesus as recorded in the gospels hold the answer. The last night Jesus spent as a free man before His arrest is recorded as the night of the Last Supper. In a period of sombre agony and fulfilment of His purpose, the Saviour established officially a new covenant. Earlier in His life He had indicated to Peter that His church will be built upon the “rock” of Peter’s steadfast life and faithful contributions to the Kingdom. One of the last orders Jesus gave to His followers before ascending was to stay together and wait for the Holy Spirit. The Spirit came at a time we call the Day of Pentecost. The church as we know it was born.
So, clearly, the Church was put in place by Jesus who was and is God.
This is the point being delivered to readers. The survival and successful functioning of the Church and of marriage will only happen because God is their creator and sustainer. In other words, so long as man continues to try and take charge of these two institutions the result will only be more of the same: failure and sad ineffectiveness.
God put marriage as the beginning point of a man and a woman’s desire to love each other and thereby start their own family. Once that purpose or order is tampered with, only chaos can result. God only does what nobody else can do. If He started marriage, it means it is only His power that can and will keep a marriage. Our modern western societies in particular have greatly adjusted marriage in all possible ways it seems. We think it is quite “modern” to start a family before getting married. Virginity is now a greatly devalued sexual currency. Our girls and young ladies in particular are realizing after giving up their virginity that they did so prematurely. Many of them do not have a life long relationship with their first sex partner.
God intended the virgin’s sex to be the sealing of a lifelong monogamous relationship; hence, the reason blood is spilled. Sex is a mighty and powerful act that cements two people. Sex is only ten percent physical. The bride and groom were meant to be sexual novices at marriage and then grow sexually with each other throughout the rest of their married lives. But instead we have people getting married, or even unmarried, who are by their experiences sexually imbalanced. The partner who has had more sexual encounters make comparisons and insists on expectations that intimidate and stifle the freedom of the other partner to learn, grow and express opinions freely.