I’m a social feminist. I believe in gender equality. I think women are treated poorly in this society, and that we need to take measures to make us all equal. I think fundamentalist religion and the old guards of power and authority are unfairly holding women from advancing in this world. But at the same time I’m not a supporter of the extremist variation of Feminism that exists in our society: The concept of putting a women’s wants and needs over a man’s because man has been deemed inferior for whatever reason of the week. If we truly are equal, and if we’re all striving for equality, then we should follow the golden rule and treat each other how we ourselves want to be treated
This ridiculous double standard where a woman can bash a man for hours, and the second they’re insulted cry “sexist,” is bullshit. The fact that most men portrayed on television are portrayed as socially-inept retards, while women are portrayed as well-rounded and perfect, is bullshit. The idea that you’re not a man unless you put on your Axe, wax yourself, and bow to your girl’s every whim is bullshit. And the loss of any kind of identity for the modern male, and the opposition to finding that identity is not only unacceptable, but it is just plain bullshit.
My brother Eric could best be described as a metrosexual. For those of you not in on this fun little game of linguistic diarrhea, the term refers to a straight guy who acts gay. The term does not go both ways. (Get it?) You are not a metrosexual if you’re a gay guy who acts straight. But if you were a straight guy who acts gay, then you would be considered a metrosexual. To me there is nothing wrong with being gay or being straight. That’s your preference, and no one has the right to tell you otherwise. But I have a big problem with the concept of metrosexuals, or Ken Dolls, as they will be referred to from now on. A Ken Doll is not the identity we should accept for the modern man.
You know how to spot a Ken Doll from a mile away, and a glue gun shoved up your nose. They have popped collars, pink shirts, gelled hair, and may or may not have those fashionable Lance Armstrong bracelets on their hand. You might also be able to smell them, despite the noticeable handicap of the glue gun, because they felt the need to bath in Axe and other cheap colognes. Ken Dolls also do things like man-scaping, waxing, and spending over an hour in the salon getting their hair done. They care about fashion, their self-worth, and their interior decorating skills. They hope to graduate and take a mid-level position in a company for the rest of their lives, decorating their Ikea apartments, and counting the days until they retire. They don’t go against the grain. They are content with the idea they represent the modern man. They don’t dare to dream.
The concept of a man coming home from work and asking his wife what she made for dinner is antiquated. We can no longer be tough guys, because then we’re accused of being chauvinists and macho. We can not continue to treat woman the way the sewage end of the hip-hop culture treats women, because that is pure exploitation that shouldn’t be tolerated. We can’t be a Ken Doll because then we’re just followers to another’s whim.
So the question is then raised as to what we can be. What society would permit us to be without generating opposition? I’m convinced that any kind of movement to create the modern man would be greeted with cries of hysteria from the liberal media, claiming that we’re just looking to upset the delicate progress women have made since the feminist movement. The reality is the modern man will continue to be an amorphous blob of lost souls with no general direction. Sure people might emerge every so often to point us in their direction, for whatever their goals might be, but we don’t have a leader. We don’t have a spirit or a soul.
My solution is a relatively simple one. That we as men always and above all else treat women with respect, chivalry, and love. We should not allow ourselves to be bullied by any one ideology or agenda. We should fight for what we believe to be true and speak out against injustices. And we should stop popping our collars, because that’s really fricking lame.