I’ve been dating a Virgo man since April. When things are good, they’re great and I’m giddy. When things are bad, they’re so bad I just want to call the whole thing off. It’s a constant rollercoaster and I just can’t figure it out.
On top of that, he hasn’t said “I love you” yet. I’ve never had a relationship where the man did not say those words for this long. But he has said that I may be “The One” and that he’s thinking of things in the long-term. He claims he has never told anyone this before.
I’m just not sure if he’s for real. Is he in love with me? Help!
Uncommitted and un-“I love you”-ed
Does he love you? Before you worry about that, ask yourself this: do you love him? Because it really doesn’t sound like you’re getting what you need – a sense of security, for example.
Considering you’re a Cancer with Venus in Cancer, this is a number one consideration. You want to be clinging to something that is real. And since you don’t know, you are understandably stressed. So here are some ideas.
Number one, ask him. “Do you love me?” After all, you need to know!
Don’t laugh and don’t say, “I’d never…” Why wouldn’t you? Look at how freaked you are. If this is all this guy can deliver, you may as well find out so you can cut your losses. The idea is to get your needs met. If he loves you, he will start meeting some of your needs and if not, you’ll want to look for someone else.
And I’m sorry. I understand you are invested here, but a rollercoaster does not sound like something you should sign up for the long term. Bottom line, you should not have to be guessing where he stands because it doesn’t work for you.
I’m not saying he won’t step up, because he very well might. Tell him what you want. Do you know what you want? You want someone put their arms around you and tell you that they love you. You want to FEEL it. If he can’t do that, I’d move along. But catch the point here. You want to focus on your feelings, not his.
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