Tamara Elizabeth has been many things including a speaker, author, self love coach, radio host, a master motivator of women in transition, conductress of motivational seminars, professional photographer, small space designer, lover of social media, mother of five, and a fabulously loveable woman after her first 50 years.
She decided that once she turned 50 it was time to create a revolution of women.
She has had some bumps in the road, and along the way decided that if she was able to start her life again at fifty, anyone can. It was at this point she decided to share her experiences in her book Fabulously Fifty and Reflecting It!
In addition to the book she also offers a mentoring program entitled Ten Steps to Discovering and Living the Most Loveable You! She hopes that this program will help women find their fabulously loveable self.
Her online business, Every Small Space is a Living Place, has become her way of life as she now lives in a 500 square foot apartment in the heart of Vancouver, BC. Her business is devoted to helping people find solutions to small space challenges.
What inspired you to write this book?
My journey to this point in my life ended up being a major part of my inspiration. I didn’t start out with the intention of writing a book. I was writing essays about my life as a healing process to journeying through a major transition in my life. As each essay was completed, a natural reflective question developed and seemed to naturally want to be answered by me. I thought that if these stories could be a therapeutic tool for me then possibly they could help other women traveling through their own personal transitions. My mentor saw a pattern and encouraged me to create a workbook and see it through to publication. The more I thought about the possibility, the more I dreamed it a reality and the more excited I became about the possibility. This has been a fabulous project and a goal that I never thought would materialize. I am now just basking in the glory of a small dream realized.
Can you give us some background as to why once you turned 50 you felt it necessary to share your knowledge?
This has nothing to do about age as a number – it has to do about coming of age. Anyone can come of age at any time in his or her life. It just happened to be for me at mid-life. I suffered my most challenging transition to date at this time and the process of working through it brought about the book. I feel that when you learn lessons in life it is important to share them with others so that their challenges don’t appear so insurmountable to them as they seemed to me.
Can anyone read and benefit from this book, or do you feel it is mostly geared towards women over 50?
Anyone at any age will face transitions – we just don’t realize earlier on that we have because we are so busy rushing through life not living life. At mid-life, though, we do tend to slow down and reflect on how and why we got to where we are. Unfortunately, it usually takes a tragedy of some kind for us to look out ourselves and the journey we are on to discover who we are and what we want – that can happen anytime in life, we only have to be brave enough to learn the lessons.
Are there any books that have influenced you throughout your life? Or books that made you want to write this one?
Erma Bombeck was my hero as a writer. She taught me to find the true humor in life. Not take you, life or others too seriously and learn to laugh at yourself. Learn the lessons life has to teach you with the humor that was meant to go with each.
“All of us have moments in out lives that test our courage. Taking children into a house with a white carpet is one of them.” ~ Erma Bombeck
What are your current projects?
I have so any spoons in my soup bowl. As I taste my creativity with each one, something will stand out and will be my next project.
What do you do when you aren’t writing?
I love hiking, and I was a travel photographer and now just go out and explore with my camera and look at life through a lens. I am a ferocious reader and read up to five different genres at a time. My travel bug is alive and biting all the time – love love traveling the world hanging out in locals’ areas.
If there is only one thing you want readers to grasp from your book, what would it be?
Never give up. Life is a roller coaster, and all the twists and turns are in front of you for reason. Celebrate everything you experience, forgive everything, especially yourself, and be grateful for every minute of the present. Learn from the past, and then let it go; live in the present and breathe in every moment; then reach for the future with you goals and dreams.
Can you tell us about any challenges you faced in getting your first book published?
My goal once I decided to put my essays into a workbook format was to get the message out so as to help at least one other woman. My mentor encouraged me to look into self-publishing with a print and demand company. It is a great deal of work to get it marketed this way, but the experience has been a great learning adventure. I believe that anyone who has an expertise and wants to write about it should do so and get it in print anyway they can. There is a world of hungry readers out there reader to absorb your knowledge, so set up the buffet and invite them in to eat.
If you had to go back and do it again, is there any aspect of your book or how you got it published that you would change?
I never look back only learn. So I wouldn’t change anything about this book, it was my first project, and like a newborn child you wouldn’t change him or her for the world. But I might do things differently this next time, solely dependent on what structure of a book I am writing and what market I am looking for. I self-published this time because I just wanted to get my empowerment tool out to help at least one other woman. I might require an agent and major publishing company in the future as the messages I am trying to radiate become bigger and more important. And the need for a broader audience is required – who knows.
How do you market your work? What have you found works best for you?
I mainly use social media. I have a blog and landing pages for my site. I also signed on to do this Virtual Book Tour with Pump Up Your Book. Since I am a newbie I really don’t know which is the best way to publish or promote, but all is a learning curve and I am enjoying the adventure immensely.
Visit Tamara’s website at www.moximize.me.