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Inclusive Language And Intimate Family Relationships

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I have children, but I’m not sure what I would like for them to call me. When I thought of myself as the man of the house and as the male parent, I instructed them to think of me as their father and simply call me Daddy. However, the more I pursue degendered relationships, the more I desire for them to use a term of endearment that helps them re-envision and relate to me as a degendered parent who plays the day-to-day roles of neither “dad” nor “mom,” but both “dad” and “mom.”

Perhaps a transitional term like “dadimom” will suffice for now. I don’t know, but I like this choice because it easily captures and conveys the idea of a parent dedicated to fulfilling all parental responsibilities. The dadimom is a parent whose love has been liberated from unnecessarily fixed and fettered modes of expression. Acknowledging their own imperfection, a dadimom also encourages shared parenting when this is possible and profitable to their child or children. For the purpose of degendered parenting isn’t to exclude parents, but to empower all parents to make a maximum deposit of good into the lives of their children.

Since language is perception, and perception is reality, I want to change how my children see me by changing how they speak of me. Of course, inclusive language is not all it will take to continue positively transforming our relationships, but I think it can help.

I already have wonderfully life-changing relationships with my children. However, I never experienced the joy of parenting in its fullness until I transcended traditional gender roles. Now, I want to remove language barriers, too.

What are your thoughts on this? What do you think of the idea of degendered parenting? What inclusive terms of endearment would you recommend, not only for me as a parent, but for everyone in the family?

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  • sal m

    excuse me if i sound naive, but are you serious?

    if so, i would suggest coming up with a completely new word that has nothing to do with the old…so daddimom is totally out because your kids would somehow get the sense that these old words are appropriate…and if they aren’t already confused, this would just confuse them more…since you are trying to “trancend traditional gender roles” you must use different terms, not just combine terms that have been used for eons…how about fungo bat or deciduous forrest?

  • http://chantalstone.blogspot.com chantal stone

    Why don’t you just have your kids call you by your first name?

    As far as degendered parenting…it’s not a new idea, although I’ve never heard that phrase before. Parents of both sexes have been taking on the non-traditional roles for generations. And its more common now, than ever. I don’t really see the necessity of creating a label for it.

    I congratulate your close and evolved relationship with your children. But in my eyes, parenting shouldn’t be so scientific.