This is my second time coming to you. I emailed once before after going through a particularly devastating breakup. I wanted to know if there was a chance for us to work out and you very nicely told me that it wasn’t meant to be.
This time, I come to you with pretty much the same problem. I am having such a hard time letting go of him. It’s been 6 months. He’s dated two other woman since me, and I have also discovered that he wasn’t even divorced when he was dating me, but rather merely separated.
Despite knowing this, I still love him. I suppose I am scared to let go, but I am so worried that I won’t ever find love again — at least, not like what I had with him. I don’t really even know what I am asking. How do I move on? Is there even reason to move on? It’s ridiculous to feel my love life is over at a young 22-years old, but I really do feel that way.
I am so tired of feeling heartbroken all the time. Perhaps I shouldn’t be friends with him anymore? We are very close still, which makes me feel he must still care about me. I am just so confused. Can you help me? Please?
I can try to help and I hope I do a better job this time, dang! It sounds like I tried to be subtle last time and since that didn’t work, how about I put it bluntly?
It sounds to me like you’ve been played. This is not some dream boat guy, okay? He’s a liar for one thing. He lied to you and I’m sure he’s lied to the girl after you and the girl after her, and he is probably looking for another girl to lie to, right this moment, while he simultaneously is hoping to reunite with his wife! Get it? He’s a PLAYER.
And I’m sorry. I’m not trying to hurt you. I just don’t want you to hang your life up on this guy for even one more day. You’re making a habit of this, you know? Of pining for some bastard who is merely a bastard!
Now I am sure he has some skills. Maybe he can talk a good game. Maybe he can kiss or he’s good in bed. But love? This is not where this guy’s head is at. And as for not having it ‘this way” again, well you should hope like hell that you’re right! Because this guy did not give you anything. He took from you.
As for being friends, it’s obvious this is not a good choice – just look how you feel! So here’s the bottom line: Saturn is transiting your Moon (your mood) and I think you’re a little depressed. You are definitely bogged down here and you need to start tossing some things over board. Baggage! And that’s what this guy is. And I’ll tell you exactly why you’re holding on.
It’s because when you do walk away, this guy is not going to bat an eye. And that’s going to hurt like hell, so there. It’s been said, so now it’s out in the open. I say, cut the line on this loser fish and toss another.
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