I am a stay-at-home mom.
Sometimes I think to myself, “This is the life!” My favorite parts of being a stay-at-home mom are that I never have to change out of my pajamas, I don’t have to brush my teeth in the morning if I don’t want to (it is gross, I know, but I don’t HAVE to!), and I get to see every milestone, every smile, and every hug from my son!
I often wonder when I answer the door in my pajamas, messy hair, and no makeup, what the postman, UPS man, or Fed-Ex person thinks. Does he think “What a life she leads!”, “Wish I could be in my pajamas still instead of delivering my 100th package of the day!”, or “Wish I could be in my pajamas in my warm house instead of out here freezing while I knock over and over on your door!” Sometimes I wonder…and smile to myself!
Then there is my husband who envies my two-hour naps, my lack of teeth-brushing, and my time with our son. I hear quite often that he wishes he could stay in his pajamas all day.
Then come the days when my son is getting four eyeteeth in at the same time, is in excruciating pain, and won’t stop crying and whining all day, and I am ready to pull my hair out. There are the days when all I have done is clean up puke, wipe runny noses, try to do some housework with a son clinging to my legs, or hold my sick son because all he wants to do is cuddle with Mommy. Those are the days those envious people don’t see.
That is when I look at the postman, the UPS delivery person, my husband, and want to ask, “Do you really want this job?” Maybe then they would notice the bags under my eyes, the wrinkles that weren’t there before, and the grey hair creeping in that they didn’t see before!
One thing I have learned as a mother is that the grass is always greener on the other side and you need to learn to love what you do every day and embrace it. It was hard for me to transition to full-time motherhood from full-time working outside the home when my son was born but now I would never trade being a mommy full-time for any job, anywhere. I just smile at the postman, the delivery person, my husband, and say, “Yes, my job is great and I love it!”
It is the only thought that can get me through those rough days.