What Sex and the City Taught Me About Writing

Part of: Confessions of a Word Junkie

Now, I realize that Sex and the City's Carrie Bradshaw (Sarah Jessica Parker) is no Simone de Beauvoir, but the sight of her at her computer, doing the writer’s jig that turns thoughts and experiences into words, still gives me the chills. The very phrase, “I couldn’t help but wonder,” which signals the beginning of her musings on sexology, can propel me into convulsions of creative identification.

I came to rely on the formula of Carrie posing the question, followed by what she finds out about herself, her friends, her world, as a result. That one little sentence, along with the image of her wispy body poised before her Mac, sometimes with a cocktail, sometimes a cig, has become one of my archetypal images of the working writer.


Unlike the promise of dolorous sentence-scrawling offered by so many of the other far more pretentious and far more dead authors in whose image I have constructed my bardic fantasies, Carrie represents a modern view of a successful writer who seems to love what she does for a living.

I’m aware of the human tendency to frame what we enjoy according to how we want to see ourselves. It is this impulse that convinces avid porn watchers that they are really erotic sociologists; that teaches peeping toms to fancy themselves flâneurs; and that prompts liars to perceive that they are merely gifted enough to see the world as it should be. In other words, I understand that I might be imbuing Darren Star’s brainchild with cerebral qualities that don’t rightfully belong to it; but, accurate or not, it was a formative element in my understanding of the writing life.

Doggone it, I learned from Carrie. I watched her deal with creative rejection; who can forget seeing her torn apart by Enid (her Anna Wintour-esque editor at Vogue)? Sure, she has her other editor (Jon Rifkin) to get her drunk on one too many diurnal martinis and take her on a tour of the Vogue closet, complete with a peek at his no-no, but she still has to confront that crushing feeling and adapt. I also watched her cope with writer’s block, a scenario that culminated in the wordsmith’s magic trick of coaxing inspiration out of nothingness.

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Caroline Hagood is a poet, writer and full-time book, movie and blog maniac. Her poetry and articles have appeared in various publications and she blogs at the Huffington Post, Culture Sandwich, and Film Catcher.

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  • 1 - Helen Gallagher

    Sep 23, 2009 at 7:26 pm

    This is a cute essay, Caroline. Reminds me how much I miss that Sex and the City series. It was very clever, at its core.

  • 2 - Caroline Hagood

    Sep 23, 2009 at 9:36 pm

    It was surprisingly clever in places. I wrote this because I know how vapid most people think it is; and it is in places, but there's something I got out of it.

  • 3 - Joanne Huspek

    Sep 24, 2009 at 8:13 am

    Yes, very enjoyable!

  • 4 - Caroline Hagood

    Sep 24, 2009 at 8:52 am

    Joanne, I'm glad you enjoyed. I enjoyed your Reunioning post.

  • 5 - John Lake

    Sep 24, 2009 at 11:03 am

    That most welcome article seems to be in a nitch by itself;
    kind of wedged in between familiar forms.
    Maybe some beverage might even help.
    I'm kidding.

  • 6 - Caroline Hagood

    Sep 24, 2009 at 11:18 am

    A beverage always helps.
    I'm not kidding.
    Okay, I am.

  • 7 - Jeanne Browne

    Sep 27, 2009 at 3:13 am

    Interesting...your article made me realize that even though I'm both an avid "Sex and the City" fan and a professional writer, I never particularly identified with Carrie as a colleague. But I did recognize that the series offered very good TV writing with that special blend of humor and wisdom. Maybe it was an age-difference thing (my being older and therefore not connecting with Carrie writer-to-writer). But I did/do, to my surprise, connect with those girls as a woman. For men who say they don't understand women, and for women who don't understand men and often, at times, themselves, "Sex and the City" was/is a creative meditation on identity and the battle of the sexes. And I'll have to give that writer-identification matter some thought...

  • 8 - Christopher Rose

    Sep 27, 2009 at 5:33 am

    Sex and the City had its moments but the main thing I got from it was that a TV show can become successful despite having a totally lame lead "star". Sarah Jessica Parker's character was the least believable of the four by a long way, which I put down to the person playing the part.

  • 9 - Caroline Hagood

    Sep 27, 2009 at 11:15 am

    Jeanne, I don't think it's that surprising that you have watched the show and not identified with Carrie as a fellow writer. I think Carrie represents a kind of commercial writing that a lot of people don't associate themselves with. I think part of the reason that I did identify with her so much is because, unlike Christopher, I do find Carrie to be very endearing; but the main reason is that I started watching the show before I had become a professional writer, so Carrie's ability to live off what I loved to do was very appealing.

  • 10 - Caroline Hagood

    Sep 27, 2009 at 11:18 am

    Christopher, as I mentioned above, I do like Carrie's character; but I think that if you were able to enjoy the show while finding her to be lame, then you're absolutely right that that says something about the quality of the show.

  • 11 - Talitha

    Sep 20, 2010 at 1:06 am

    I really like carrie's character, more than the other three! although i also like the character Samantha.

    It's a good essay, i really like to read about it. I really miss the show but i'm glad there where two movies made!

    So thanks for this

  • 12 - Caroline Hagood

    Sep 20, 2010 at 12:25 pm

    Thanks a lot. I'm glad you enjoyed it.

  • 13 - Jennifer

    Feb 18, 2011 at 5:03 am

    Loved your essay! Honestly when I try to write, I do write behind my laptop with a cig and a glass of whine:)

  • 14 - Caroline Hagood

    Feb 18, 2011 at 8:29 pm

    Jennifer: it's the way to go.

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