So it goes in our household. We talk and talk and talk about all the decisions she wants to make, and I'll normally tell her to go for it –and she knows that I've got her back, because if anything goes wrong, the final decision rested with me. This way we protect each other's pride, we support each other's authority, we keep each other happy, and we remain "us," the best team there ever was!
But what's the downside of true love that I mentioned in the title? The deep, abiding fear that something will happen to her and she wouldn't be there for me anymore. Or worse, that something will happen to me and she'd have to go through life without me, because I wouldn't be there to love her, to protect her, to be her "shock-absorber" in life, to make sure she'd never go to the restaurant or to the movies or to the beach alone, to rub her feet when she's tired, and to keep her warm at night. I promised her that I would always be there for her and I will try with all my might to be there until she draws her last breath, even though it means I'd live the rest of my life without her. Just thinking about this makes me get teary – it always has – but the reader should bear in mind that I'm too macho to ever cry, honest!
True love is real, but only for those couples who are willing to love and trust unconditionally. In your search to find your own true love, remember that while you might well have one or even several broken hearts along the way, there's someone out there for you –someone who wants your happiness more than their own. Just bear in mind that even in a great love, there will be pain, there will be a downside. But it's worth it – with God as my witness it's worth every tear you'll ever shed!
So don't be too afraid of taking a chance, of risking the emotional pain of a broken heart, because on the merry-go-round of life, if you keep reaching out, sometimes that brass ring will be just beyond your grasp; but if you lean some more, reach out a little further, and your timing is just right, you'll have something precious beyond words.
Article comments
1 - CJ
One thing that bothers me in this beautiful article - one person has to be In CHARGE (naturally the man). I don't get how the rest of it fits with that
2 - Glenn Contrarian
CJ -
I am in charge - read the paragraph about the relationship between the CO and the XO. I am responsible for all decisions whether I make them or she does.
It's sorta like letting a horse gallop where it will - if it's going in the direction you want it to anyway, why tell it to do something else?
3 - Glenn Contrarian
And "naturally the man" doesn't always work. While many women like for the man to take charge, there's many of them who want to do their own thing, too.
For instance, if you're interested in the Bible, Proverbs 31:16 - She considers a field and buys it; From her earnings she plants a vineyard
I don't see anything there that says she has to get her husband's permission first. Just something to think about....