I am neither a financial expert nor a profound economist. But there is one thing that I have realized in the recent past that I would like to share with you. Through various incidents I have arrived at this realization. Some of those incidents were extremely painful and bitter, like the sudden demise of my father last November just few weeks before my semester examination, and the jilt in my love-affair in the same month. Today I have overcome all those depressive events.
In those moments I had only two options: either to give up and succumb to the so-called pressure, or to accept the challenge life had set me and overcome the problem. I would like the reader to note that that I have consciously used the phrase "so-called pressure," because indeed it is "so-called" - nothing more than that! If you go on being negative, unnecessarily worried and tensed, the pressure will take control of you and things might even change from bad to worse. But if you do otherwise, then you'll be in total control of the pressure, which is a key to unlocking any problem in life.
So, by now you know what choice I made last November. What could I do? Yes, it did hurt, but I also decided that at no cost was I going to succumb to the pressure. I tried various ways and eventually got hold of the pressure. Those "various ways" are what I would like to share with you all, with the hope that you too will try and apply it in your life, to overcome the "so-called pressure" that life has pressed upon you.
I am from Nepal, and I study Computer Science in Bangalore, India. The first thing I did, upon returning to India from Nepal after my father's untimely demise, was to make it clear to my friends that that I didn't want any kind of "sympathy-talk" from them. That's because as years have gone by, I have realized that sympathy is a fake thing. Sympathy only weakens the person sympathized with. Yes, I am aware there are people who love to be sympathized with. But that's another thing. I also understand the difference between sympathy and empathy. But at that time I did not even allow my friends to empathize with me. I told them that the best thing they could do for me was to give me their silence. I wanted to be left alone so that I could introspect, contemplate, and decide on my future moves. Moreover, I simply wanted to be alone. At times we do want to be left alone, don't we?
Article comments
1 - Joanne Huspek
Very well said.
We can't fix the world at large, but we can fix our own worlds. And that's what we should ALL be doing.
2 - Ruvy
Thank you CoolDeep for this article. I don't agree with you 100% (Joseph Stalin always said 100% agreement only came in the grave), but most of this is a valuable reminder that G-d gives us an assignnment to accomplish, and we have an obligation to attempt that task.
Considering the "so-called pressure" that I've been under financially for a while, I guess I need to look at things the way you do and see what happens.
Good luck with your studies!
3 - CoolDeep
Joanne, I completely agree with you. The sole truth is we can only change ourselves. And as a matter of fact that's the real change. When each of them starts taking responsibility and begins to change himself; of course for the better; then there is no need for anybody to change anybody.
Ruvy - I am thankful to you too for reading my article. Yes, nobody can come to a 100% agreement. , because we all are unique individual, in search of our unique quest.
4 - Diana Daffner, Author, Tantra for Busy Couples
Yes, how we deal with pressure definitely determines the quality of our lives and our relationships. We don't always have a say in how it shows up, or how much pressure we're given, but we are always in charge of how we respond - each in our own unique way.
5 - CoolDeep
Thank you Diana for sharing with us your perspectives.
:)