The World According to Your Child

In a previous post I introduced the importance of understanding your child's perspective. It is the cornerstone of good parenting.

In fact, studies have shown that understanding your child's perspective has a bigger positive impact on your children than anything else you can do as a parent! Yet the idea of knowing the child's perspective eludes even those parents with the best intentions.

There are three levels of perspective taking, as Jean Piaget explained: visual, intellectual, and emotional.

Today I hope to provide you with enough detail about the visual aspect that you will be able to transfer this discussion to your own experiences. Future posts will examine the intellectual and emotional perspectives of children.

First, take a moment to imagine yourself the height of your child. Maneuver around your house at this height (crawling, squatting, kneeling) to gain insight into what your child experiences every day.

• Are her needs met at this level?
• Are there small chairs and tables, books positioned lower on shelves, or toys located in easy reach?
• Is there interesting artwork at this level?
• Is your child's independence supported at this level (dressing, eating, helping with household tasks)?

Aside from having a different physical perspective on the world with regards to height and size, children see other aspects of life differently too. Can you remember the way those classic children's books looked to you as a youngster? Probably more vivid and illustrative than they do today, after you've read them umpteen times. Do you remember how gigantic and "alive" playgrounds and pools looked when you were very young?

Consider now your own child's perspective.

Have you ever brought your child to a festival only to have her "freak out"? How embarrassing, right?

Your child was over-stimulated by the activity, movement, noises, smells, light, sirens, etc. Make note of this so that in the future you can prepare your child. Discuss those strong feelings, and give her names for the emotions. This will help your child to feel respected and understood, and it will help her to understand what she is feeling, besides shame, fear, and discomfort.

Article Author: Emily Geizer

I am a mother of two and a Montessori teacher. This combination, along with the prodding of some parents, has brought me to the blogosphere to share my thoughts, insights, and perspective. Child Perspective is a parent education site based on child psychology and child development. …

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