(Author's Note: Chelsea Snyder is the blogger formerly known under the blog alias Chelsea Lou.)
As some may have noticed, there has been little posting on The Obnoxious Couple in the last month by both Matt and myself. This could be explained by the fact that we are both extremely busy people with careers and a career in the works. It would be the easy explanation. What’s more, it’s the explanation many have been hearing.
The ugly truth of the matter is that the couple you’ve loved to hate has been on the brink of self-destruction. A lot of tears have been shed, late nights spent on the phone and IM desperately trying to salvage a solution out of a seemingly desperate situation.
As a couple that had for so long worked together with little conflict, we found ourselves in a deadlock. Our respective careers were consuming all of our energy, leaving little time to make ourselves emotionally available for each other. Physically, we had seen each other maybe twice in the last month. Our most rousing conversations were on BlogCritics threads.
It was a great act, though. Our families and friends were under the impression that despite the stress, we were a great couple that made it work. But more and more, when asked “How are you two doing?”, the response “Great” seemed to be more and more of a lie.
The easy way out would be to let the stress and conflict consume us; call it quits. A college relationship that was what it was, and great while it lasted, but didn’t have the tenure to make it in the “real world.” It would make sense, and not many people would blame either of us, nor would we blame each other.
But we didn’t.
We stuck it out. A lot of crying, a lot of late nights. A lot of cash dropped on gas and mileage on cars. We have dedicated ourselves to making it work. \
Love is a crazy thing. By all accounts, this is the healthiest relationship either of us has ever been in, and to consider leaving because things “got hard” is both irresponsible and stupid. Love isn’t what the chick flicks paint it out to be; sometimes “fate” doesn’t throw in situations that bring a resolution. Sometimes, you have to grow some balls, take some initiative, and make things work. Otherwise, you’re going to sit back long enough to realize you’re entirely alone.