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The Men Who Wear the Tights, The Women Who Wear the Pants
As children, our earliest exposure to the notion of a hero is typically a character in tights. Sporting a bath towel cape and pretending to be imbued with super powers, we dream of measuring up. Soon we are introduced to 'community helpers' –- those kindergarten days celebrating the men and women who keep the cogs of a community going, as well as those who wait in the wings of daily obscurity to launch a rescue when needed. But while I would never denigrate the heroism of those who truly sacrifice to serve — especially those who have given the ultimate sacrifice in any line of duty — I have to say I've never been at ease with the status of auto-heroics.
Auto-heroics have nothing to do with the Indianapolis 500. It is my own term for the automatic assignment of the title of hero to anyone just because they chose a particular job. Trust me. I've walked in these shoes. Mine is a view from the inside out. Granted, it's true those most often paid homage -– firefighters and police officers –- are in a position to act heroically; more than anyone else they'll get the chance; but pinning on a badge, alone, doesn't put anyone on a pedestal in my mind. It's simply not enough.
Altruism is a myth. I say this because even in serving others there is a pay-off. If not a paycheck then a sense of self-worth or the accolades we think we are likely to garner: our personal stairway to heaven. This is, instead, a look at a different kind of hero, at a type of day-to-day heroics to which most of us, save the horribly unfortunate, can relate from one side of the fence or the other. This is a column about parenting.
Parents are a quiet kind of hero, an unsung species who are the building contractors of society. They are the build-it-and-they-will-come dreamers who with a funny sort of blind faith cast their souls into the fray to help make tomorrow come true. Most, looking back, would re-think the decision. It's no accident God made the view so different from opposite sides of the fence, for if as children we knew what it was really like to be parents we would never deign to procreate; that, or it's a matter of rampant hormones. Either way, the result is the same: parents are born right along side of their children, as fresh and unmistakably new as the babe in their arms.
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