Dear Elsa,
I met a guy a little over a month ago, and we get along great. We're both single parents so sometimes it’s hard to get together, but we still manage to see each other a couple times a week.
He told me early on that he's commitment phobic - due to a failed marriage, followed by a sudden break up. I told him I don't want to rush into anything myself but eventually want a relationship in my life. He understood and things were great. We talked everyday and send text messages throughout the day.
A week ago, I was really stressed and in a bad mood. I wasn't the nicest person to him. We slept together that night and he left not long after that. I was a little upset because he usually stays and holds me all night. I sent him a text asking if he came over for anything other than sex. He said yes.
We haven't talked for a week. He used to call daily so I was concerned he was mad about my question. I sent a text and asked him if he decided that he doesn't want to see me anymore. He replied that, "Yes but I'm not ready for a girlfriend so if you don't want to see me I'll understand." I asked where that came from and he said he would call me later.
I'm so confused! It's only been a month, and we are still getting to know each other. I don't know what caused him to think I want to be his girlfriend right this minute. I don't even know if I'm ready for a relationship right now! I've been hurt plenty in the past and I'm a little worried it will happen again.
I want him to know he can trust me but if this is only a mind game I don't want to fall into it! I don't want to walk away but don't want to get hurt either. Any advice?
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