I've grown my hair long and now I'm getting noticed and getting looks. Before, I had a flattering style and my hair was in better condition, and even dyed a flattering shade of auburn some of the time, but no dice. Not a single compliment from a male and not many from women. My hair used to resemble Oprah's curly do, only with a smaller profile, since I don't have professional help. I thought that objectively it looked nice, but since I inadvertantly grew my hair out, I found out that I was getting a better response, and I'm going to stick with what I've got. The condition of my hair was better before, and it's streaked with gray all the time now, but they still like it a lot better.…
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My former wife left this world many years ago. My current wife has long red hair and if it were not for women products Im sure her hair would be all gray. Beauty does not fade with age. I love her more then the day we married. She's given me two wonderful kids and I truly dont know what I would do if I should ever loose her. Show her the door. I think not. If anything she should show me the door putting up with all my crap for over 26 years. Sorry I misunderstood you concerning demure. Yes I love to look at beautiful women. Just remember SteveS that Im an asshole.
77 - Anon.
This might not be a continuation of the discussion but what if women cut their long hair in order to donate it? Isn't that saying something? Can't a person be attracted to the reason behind the cut instead of the cut itself?
78 - cyntsk
If compliments and attention are really what you're looking for, you should definitely stick to the long hair. If you like to experiment, and have the confidence and style to pull it off - short hair works for me!
79 - cyntsk
I had long hair for decades and was always worried when I cut, colored or changed it. I was very concerned about protecting my attractiveness and femininity. I've had short hair for about a year now and it is a reflection of very positive and gradual change and growth. I could care less if some guy on the street finds me attractive. I KNOW I'm attractive. I'm no longer concerned with impressing those who don't like me for me, which frees me up to pursue things I'm truly interested in and to become the person I want to be. I feel sorry for women who never get out of long hair stage...or at least try something new once, whatever men may think of it. I wish this personal liberation for all women.
80 - Tina
I think it's sad that the people who love short hair are not confident enough to simply enjoy the style without insulting women with flowing locks.
The "long hair ages" fallacy is simply something women say when they've cut their hair and feel they need to make excuses for it.
If you like short hair, great. If you like long hair, great.
81 - A woman who wears her hair for herself alone
For Anne Greogory
Never shall a young man,
Thrown into despair
By those great honey-coloured
Ramparts at your ear,
Love you for yourself alone
And not your yellow hair.
But I can get a hair-dye
And set such colour there,
Brown, or black, or carrot,
That young men in despair
May love me for myself alone
And not my yellow hair.
'I heard an old religious man
But yesternight declare
That he had found a text to prove
That only God, my dear,
Could love you for yourself alone
And not your yellow hair.
- Yeats
82 - Katrin
to cyntsk
I totally agree with you. I have always had long hair, but about half a year ago I cut it short without really thinking about it first. So I worried that I have lost my femininity. Before I was always told I was pretty when I walked into a bar or a party. I still am told that, even with short hair (well I actually have a bob so not ulta-short) only the compliments come from different people, more interesting people, people I actually want to talk to. Before it was just annoying guys and cheesy pick-up lines. I am more confident about my appearence now than ever. Long hair are for girls trying to look pretty! I am pretty even without the hair.
Before I was told a lot that I look like Liv Tyler or Sandra Bullock....now I mostly get Mia from Pulp Fiction.
Sorry, if there were any mistakes...I'm not from english-speaking country.
83 - c
Over the years (many by now) I've worn both very long and very short hair - For me it has depended on where i lived and what else was going on in my life. When I have lived in hot humid climates - short hair was a better choice. Also, when my children were babies - short hair was easier - it took less time, and babies tend to grab your hair and pull on it. (ouch!) When I was in grad school and very busy, short hair was easier, too.
I am 45 years old, and here and there men still hit on me (not awful old geezers, attractive men - since I'm married, this doesn't matter - but it's still fun to get this affirmation.) Different times in a woman's life, she concentrates on different things - I think that if a woman stays in shape and in style, has a good attitude about life, carries herself properly and has WAY MORE on her mind than attracting men, she will always attract men! Women who worry too much about attracting men are pathetic. Be cool, laid back and stop fretting about your hair, and the men will appear!
84 - Elvira Black
It seems like most of the older female stars/celebs who look much younger than their age have long hair, and I do tend to think that enhances the effect. I've seen many women with very unflattering short 'dos...at least in my opinion.
The other side of the coin is male baldness. It used to be a disaster, but nowadays many men just shave all or most of it off, and don't seem to have much trouble attracting women. Some young guys with a full head of hair do this deliberately. What looks awful are the guys who try to hold onto the little hair they have left in the back of their head. Ugh!
85 - Michelle
I have had my hair short, long, medium, dyed crazy colors, natural...and I have no trouble meeting men who are nuts for me.
I think it has a lot less to do with outward appearance, and much more to do with self-confidence.
Having interests and pursuits of your own is far more attractive to others, in my experience, than any particular hairstyle.
86 - Michele
Are you people insane? When I see girls or women with REALLY NATTY STRINGY long hair I think one thing-TRAILER TRASH! Hair is a statement, and when a women has short hair, she has STYLE. You people need to get with it!
87 - ctam
I cut my hair short 2 years ago. The drastic change has gotten people to really notice me and although I'm not on a desperate search for attention, the compliments I got definitely gave me some confidence. I'm very different person from who I was a few years ago, and I do believe that cutting my hair short helped me on my way. As for management, I spend a lot less time on my hair now. Coming out of the shower, I blow dry it for literally a minute, I get some product and I pretty much just throw my hands around my head and I'm all good to go!
Short hair does not fit everyone. I think the personality that short hair works best with is the artistic type. That's vague, and I mean for it to be. And I know that since I've had my hair short, girls who also have short hair almost always get an automatic + in my book for daring to do something that sidesteps the norm amongst teenage girls and young women.
88 - Shelly
I've had long hair for most of my life. I cut up to my ears six or seven years ago and it looked awful. I definitely didn't feel as feminine and beautiful with it so short, even when it grew out a little bit. But, after it got down to my shoulders, I started getting compliments and since, the only trips to the salon for me have been to get it trimmed so it stays looking well-kept and neat. It's down past my elbows now if I straighten it (it's slightly curly) and I'm thinking about donating it to Locks of Love or some other charity someday, just because it'd be for a good cause and I'd love to help someone like that... but I know that if I do get it cut it will be so hard for me because I've grown so used to the feeling of it on my back and arms. I don't even know if a charity would be able to use it, though, because even though my hair is really healthy, it's super fine, so a ponytail is... basically nothing compared to the ponytails of all those beauties with thick, long hair.
But, for now, all I can say is that I like standing out amongst all the girls whose hair is shoulder length or shorter. Because, nowadays, I really see a lot more girls with shorter hair than long. And a guy's preference just depends on the guy, I s'pose. I know I've gotten a lot of compliments from guys, but I'm sure there are others who don't find my long hair as attractive.
AND, I'd like to say that my hair takes all of three of four minutes to do on a regular day, and even less if I don't straighten my bangs! It's just a little bit of curling mousse and a clip sometimes. boo yah.
89 - Junie
When I had super short hair, my husband said that he liked it but when I decided to grow it out, he was thrilled. He LOVES my long hair. I wish I had known how he felt earlier. It's easy to grow hair, just don't cut it off (and be nice to it so it looks healthy). Seriously, long hair has made all my social interactions more positive. People are much nicer to me the longer my hair is. Go figure.
90 - Katherine
Why are you people actually fighting about this? It's completely about personal preference and whether the hair style flatters the person its on. Also that Rapunzel story was probably the funniest thing I've ever read, good job.
91 - Robert
Almost ALL gals look awesome with LONG hair! Short hair can be interesting on some women when it's well-cut, but treeses are white hot. The longer, the sexier. Women do seem more approachable to shy guys when they wear cropped haircuts, but ultimately, there is no difference between cads and gentlemen when it comes to hair preference on women. For most guys, long rules! And a good 25% of men are crazy about it.
92 - Catey
How long is long how short is short...hmmm.
I have had hair down my back most of my life while getting it cut to my shoulders randomly without there being much noticeable difference.
The better point here is no matter what your hair length, it needs to be kept clean and (dare I use the word) nappy free.I know my hair can look nappy if I just let it grow and grow and let whatever happens happen.
Eww, not nice.
Besides, if long hair is the deciding factor in sexability, why aren't more just growing their hair long or investing in extensions, instead of thousands in plastic surgery?
It's because hair length is just a small part of the overall.
Or maybe men just pick up on subtle cues from us about how we are feeling about ourselves.
93 - fred
long hair is always better for women --- it makes a distinction between the sexes --- which is very appealing to men --- we hate short hair --- you look like boy ------ put your hair up during the day if it's easier to deal with, but let it down at night!
94 - TJ
I cannot believe the appalling ignorance of some of these comments. I guess there's nothing to do but laugh when someone says "long hair is always better for women --- it makes a distinction between the sexes --- which is very appealing to men ---" Way to pile on the general statements. Narrow gender stereotyping and generalizations like this frustrate me beyond belief. Some girls look good with long hair, some look good with short, and "good" is only a matter of personal opinion anyway. Healthy hair is attractive - long or short.
95 - leva
I think there really exists a preference of long hair on women in our culture. It is a preference, so it is not case of ALL the men of course. The point, which has been mentioned several times, is that when you look healthy, you look sexy. But sort hair can look healthy too.
I think there is a large number of cultural influences messed up. For me, long hair has always been a symbol of feminity, since the princess in any fairy-tale has long hair, which is often mentioned and said to suit her a lot.
This picture of long-haired feminity is probably a deep archetype.
Then there is another thing - women of certain age often cut their hair short, because they thing it's easier to look after. There's a lot of them, and so it becomes a kind of sign. Girls, who want to be treated older, cut their hair, to join the group of mature women.
Some men are more influenced with the pincess-model, some with the other one. Therefore the different opinions on mature women's look.
For some men short or no hair can be exciting for the contrast with the usual long-hair model. It is something exotic, extraordinary and a little bit forbidden and surprising.
Surely there are other mechanisms that I haven't noticed.
And of course, hair is not the only thing that makes you sexy, but we are talking about hair now, and very generally.
96 - dk
What I wonder tho is if long hair is what defines a pretty woman for those who like long hair. I.e. would you prefer a woman with long hair over one with short hair even if the first has a less feminine figure and a less pretty face?
97 - Barb
Short hair can be kinda cute or butch or matronly (think of the Queen) but having very little hair on the head for a woman will never be as exquisitely beautiful as long wavy locks blowing in the breeze. Leave the poodle and cropped cuts for grandma.
98 - Robert
DK,to some extent, yes it can define beauty. Some women can look great even with horridly short hair. But, many very average women become exquisite and stunning with bounteous tresses. I've seen this so many times.
99 - Anna
I don't believe that the "Swedish girl" is Swedish. Maybe an American of Swedish descent but certainly not Swedish born or raised. A few reasons for this statement, first off an actual Swedish person would not give measurements in feet, instead choosing centimeters. Secondly, a Swedish person would never be married at 18 years of age, period! Considering that the average marriage age here is 31 for women (US is 25) I find this really hard to believe. I have NEVER met anyone here in Sweden that married as a teenager unless they were from an immigrant group in which case, are they really "Swedish"? Thirdly, Swedish people don't boast and brag about themselves, it goes against what we stand for. This person however repeatedly does so in an attempt to detail how attractive they are. Again, this person might have Swedish heritage, after all many Americans (and Canadians) do, but this person is not Swedish in the classic sense despite stating that they have blonde hair...
100 - K-Dawg
I have hair too!
101 - Mike Hunt
That post by Naturally floor length blonde Swedish girl or whatever her stupid name is is the most ridiculous load of bullshit I have ever seen.
102 - Linn
The person who posted that stupid "Natural blond Swedish" whatever thing, have just written a bullshit story which is completely made up, besides all the reasons Anna gave, the language is so fake, like a grade one story, gosh.
103 - Kami
If you have a naturally long face, then long hair can make it look even longer, which is why I, personally, shy away from long hair. I have a long oval face that long hair pulls even longer, which is not all that flattering, but with shorter hair and some bangs to round out my face, I do quite well for myself. I had waist-long hair at one point, cut it to about chin-length, and ever since then, I keep it at least that short.
Then again, I also experiment with a variety of colors and styles most people wouldn't. One thing I like about short hair is something many people here observed -- your average guy wouldn't pay me any attention. For a while, it bothered me, until I started paying attention to the quality of the men hitting on my co-workers rather than me, and I instantly felt better. Why would I ever want to waste my time shifting through the men who only see long blonde hair and tan skin and think gorgeous just because of that? Your average guy isn't very well suited to me, and so I stopped getting my feelings hurt when 'your average guy' stopped hitting on me. I may get hit on less, but at least all the guys who hit on me tend to know my eye color, my name, and can actually list something intellectual when I ask them why they pay me so much darn attention. ^_^
Another note -- many women feel insecure the first few days in a short hairstyle and this shows through. With short hair, your facial expressions are easier than ever to read, and if you do not have that inner confidence where 'looking sexy' stems from, then you are going to have trouble achieving it. I think that is something else that helps girls who are slim, tall, blonde, and tan -- they automatically make the assumption the whole world will find them irresistible, immediately gain that confidence, and the confidence builds their image.
Just a thought.
104 - Christopher Rose
I find shorter hair on a woman much more attractive than long hair. Not only does it show more of a woman's face, it also shows that they have the confidence to actually have a hair style, as opposed to just, well, letting it grow. How boring that is!
105 - duane
I have one word for you:
Monica Bellucci
106 - CNoelle
I'm almost completely bald. I keep it cut as low as possible with clippers, and I was natural for 9 months before that.
I have been bald for almost 17 months.
I never get hit on, but I get looked at all the time. People tell me "Oh you've got such a pretty head!" and "Everybody can't wear that!"
I knew when I did this that it was for me. If I never got a man and my hair was the only reason, then I must be meant to be single. I'd neeeever sacrifice my hair's health and my happiness for someone's opinion of me.
When it was natural, people missed my relaxed hair. But I knew why I stopped relaxing it and that was enough for me. My hair felt better and looked better and I was happier with it and myself for being strong enough to do it.
Hair is something you have to own, and I know that other people like it better when it's not as healthy just because it's long, but what's really best for you? What makes YOU happiest? If people pass you or write you off over hair, then let them walk on because your paths were just not meant to intersect.
107 - Dolly
Let someone who has had both very long (down my back) hair and a shaved head weigh in on this.
For many, many years, I had extremely long curly hair. I recently shaved my head, and I can say with confidence that I get as much, or more, attention from men.
In fact, I walked out my apartment earlier, and a guy I passed smiled and said "Hey beautiful! How are you doing?"
Then five seconds later my boyfriend came out and pointedly turned to the guy and said, in his most menacing voice, "Hey man, how's it going?"
The other guy said "I'm sorry man, I didn't mean to cut in!" and retreated down the stairs.
And this isn't the first time this kind of thing has happened since the head-shaving. At first, when it was still just stubble, I think men were intimidated and thought I might be an angry feminist. Which was cool with me, as I stopped getting the catcalls every time I walked past a group of three or more guys.
But now that it's grown out a bit(two weeks later) to about a fourth of an inch, just enough to cover the scalp, I walk past and can head guys saying appreciatively "Damn, look at that girl! I'd like to (get with) her, etc, etc" to their friends. This isn't conjecture, I've actually overheard this.
Granted, I am fairly young, 19, and I have a very decent face and body (I've done some modeling work and some acting here and there), so that may play into it, but I sincerely adore my shaved head, and so do many boys.
Also I am half african, so I think people may cut me more slack because of that? It's not so unusual to see a bald black woman.
So, because I personally have had a very different experience, I don't believe it when people make a blanket generalization like "Long hair looks best on women." I've gotten loads of compliments about my new hair (or lack thereof) from both men and women, and ZERO negative remarks. I do get some stares from time to time, but it's usually along the line of "Hm, how unusual? I wonder why..?" or a wistful "I wish I could pull that off!" look from women.
May I say, you guys have done a really excellent job with not feeding the trolls on this thread.
I was pretty enough with long hair, but, because it was thick and very curly, it took a very long time to wash, detangle, style, and dry it into something acceptable to society - at least 45 minutes of my day, every day. Sure, if your hair is long and straight it should be easy enough, but if it's curly, it's a SERIOUS investment of your time, energy, and money.
108 - Hannah
When I cut my hair from shoulder length to a pixie cut all my friends and other women loved it. The guys on the other hand stopped sort of liking me. Well i stopped getting asked out. At first it started to bother me, then i got over it. I like my hair and thats all that matters. Why should i have my hair long for some guy. I look nasty with short hair. My hair is really thin. Looks way better with short. There are plenty of women out there with short hair who look pretty damn good. I know I do. Women....if you want short hair go for it. It makes you seem confiendt in yourself and outgoing. You arent hiding behind your long hair. You are out there for the whole world to see. What is wrong with a girl who has short hair? Do you no what i say...nothing!
109 - Robert
My Dearest has long hair AND a long face, and it looks awesome on her. She isn't hiding, that's for sure! I think that sometimes short haircuts are attractive, but usually it's just sad to see the difference from before.
Shelley, please do NOT ever cut your hair out of guilt for Locks of Love. They have more hair than they could possibly utilize. Some even gets trashed, but virtually ALL of it gets SOLD.
110 - katya
I really think it is all about whatever makes YOU feel good. If you are worrying about having a short hair cut, because of what the response of men will be then, then I think you need to step back and do some self evaluation.
There is no doubt that women have been conditioned to believe beauty is defined by certain specific characteristics. We need to break out of this mold.
Additionally, I understand wanting to feel attractive and all but men are fickle any ways. You get some that love long hair, and some that find short hair really sexy. You are never going to please them all. Be happy with who you are and confident that you made the right "hair choice" and an attractive quality that can't even be described will shine through, and that is the most sexy and attractive characteristic yet!
111 - Lauren
I am a 19 year old girl and I also shaved my head! It has varied a lot in length over my life. Usually it would be about bra-strap length, as it had to be long enough to tie into a bun for ballet. I was training full time in ballet for my whole life and had to conform to a certain ideal.
When I quit 2 years ago I cut my hair into a choppy, layered bob, about chin length. The compliments came in like you wouldn't believe, from men and women. I grew it out again and they mysteriously stopped. Cut the hair again...same thing. I've been told that I have great bone structure and I guess that's why I look better with short hair.
few months ago I decided to shave my head....went all the way down to a number one :) and i still got compliments.
I am very pale with blue eyes and very dark hair, and I would describe myself as being petite. Even when I was bald I looked feminine. I think it's all about how you wear the hairstyle, the clothes you wear and your attitude etc. I like long hair but when my hair is long I look boring and ordinary. It's now a few inches long, the same length as a very short pixie cut.I don't have to do anything with it, don't dye it, etc.
It's extremely straight and quite fine and soft which makes it hard to style, but I love having short hair!
I'm growing it out a bit so I can play with it and have fun...I want it to be a bit longer so i can put product in it and mess it up a bit etc. But I would never go back to long hair!
112 - Erin
I dont know ladies... as a women myself, I dont know if i would be to excited about a man who wouldnt otherwise talk to me if i had short hair... thats kind a of shallow/superfical, and MIGHT even be a sign of what kind of guy he is, or atleast what he is looking for.
I would rather have a guy who can digg all types of beauty... long or short
i dont think alot of women understand that being "sexy" is most cases actually gets in the way of a guy seeing you as a person. I mean with all the boobs and long hair, you are getting exactly the effect you want, the guys attention, but maybe not the kind you were meaning to get.
two women already said that from their experience they attracted a different type of guy when they had short hair... I have also had the same experience.
but i will also say that nothing trumps comfidence. It wouldnt matter if your bald, if you know how to strut then you will break all the hearts.
113 - Chris "UZ" White
Fred: wat
As a guy with long hair, I prefer a short haired girl as a lover simply so our hair doesn't get tangled. :D
114 - Amanda
I have short hair. I'm a swimmer, and long hair is difficult to keep under a cap. It's also difficult to keep neat and clean with the exposure to chlorine and multiple wet-dry cycles a day. I am an athlete, with a strong body and a mind of my own. It's a shame men can't appreciate that.
But that doesn't matter, because I appreciate me. I don't feel like I have to fit into some "sexy" or "sensual" mold to be valuable.
I sincerely hope some of you can outgrow this shallow attitude, for your own sake.
115 - Amanda
By the way, I don't have any problem with women who choose to wear their hair long. I'd like to be shown the same consideration.
116 - Tedius Zanarukando
I know that once a woman goes short for the first time, it is difficult to go back to long hair. I have seen similar opinions to that of Lauren elsewhere on the Internet. That short hair attitude is divisive, and I hope many of you change your mind and return to long hair in the future. Contrary to what I might expect and what many women and the media believe, long hair is actually easier to manage and to show to best advantage than short hair. Long hair does require the frequent cutting, trimming, fussing, or styling that short hair requires. Short hair fans also have history against them. Societies are worse off with that cultural shift to the short hair status quo. Most women who go short do so on frivolous grounds, such as in the name of fashion. Like I said before, long hair is the only way to go for women, regardless of age or bone structure. It is a shame that a short hair trend is in effect and that the media is promoting short hair for women. If you are African-American, you should wear your hair then at least shoulder length. If you are Caucasian or Hispanic, then you should wear your hair at least bra strap length. If you are Asian, then you should wear your hair at least waist length. Women have spent $900M/yr cutting their hair short.
117 - Amanda
LOL! I would pay big money to see a woman try to put waist-length hair in a swimming cap! I did not cut my hair for fashion. I did it for my profession.
118 - Zadie
WOW so many people telling others what they should and shouldnt do. Why is the number one question about what others prefer? What about the individual? I have had both long and short, and at the mo have a very short do which i get complimented on but really dont think about too much. So after all the debating...WHO CARES! Women are beautiful for lots of different reasons, and the world generally does not revolve around hair length. Thankyou Tedius Zanarukando for FINALLY letting women know how they are supposed to wear their hair. And to think they were deciding for themselves all this time?
119 - Rachael
I don't understand how having short hair makes a woman butch. Really. Think of Keira Knightleys hair in Domino, or Rhianna's new short do. Sexy as hell, right? You wouldn't say no.
I'm personally just waiting to get out of High School to cut my hair into one of the before mentioned styles. My hair is a bit passed my shoulders, and because it's fine, it can look straggly. I have very big blue eyes and small features, so I can pull short hair off. I guess it all depends on confidence, too.
It doesn't really matter, I suppose. I like short and long hair on women, but what's really attracts me to people is when they don't care what others think of them or their looks. Do it for you, and then you'll be confident about it, and that will attract more people than not
120 - Judi
You know I have never been more tired of DUMB BLONDE!!!! Jokes. I am a natural Blonde and so is my whole family ( seven brothers, and two sisters) out of this family we have produced twenty-four children, ALL BLONDE most Collage Grads. we have had a few close calls because of the color of our hair, One that comes to mind is the fact that my older sister who has a beautiful 5'8'' 120lb daughter with blonde hair very long, that has to be moved to sit down all curls. This child at age fourteen had to be move to a private school to keep her head from being shaved by the other students. This is Due to jealous brunettes, and African Americans and being stereo typed by the whole population of the USA. please STOP! We can not help the color of our hair. ( don't hate us for being beautiful ). Respond.
121 - Sami
i think it definitely has something to do with the shape of your face. i've had my hair short for two years now, and everyone i know has said they like it better short than long. (my hair was also really wild, thick, and wavy when it was long, so i always ended up putting it up. once it reached my elbows, i cut it all off.) it's a lot healthier now . . . but it grows like crazy.
i've done a lot of crazy things with my hair, it's been bright red, black, blue streaked, blond streaked, spiked, and i'm getting it cut again today. super-short (in a not-so-severe-mohawk-ish style)
personally, short hair = good for sports!
122 - Tedius Zanarukando
It is not actually necessary to cut your hair short for a profession like swimming. There are swimcaps designed for long hair, and they are very popular, according to Amazon.com. I have seen advertisements for haircare products for long hair. Long hair is also good for sports, not short hair. Pony tail hairdos are used in sports. Short hair requires constant cutting, trimming, blow drying. Long hair does not require that maintenance. There are lot of positive spiritual characteristics associated with long hair, as I have seen in the Long Hair Community Forum (a forum I have never posted in). Many women who have cut their hair short cut it for fashion rather than for a profession.
123 - evergreen
I'm 51 years old and I have long dark hair past my waist with very little gray. I don't dye or perm my hair. My hair is so shiny and healthy. My hair is also very fine but it looks great long. I literally have to refuse dates all the time because Im told Im beautiful, wear nice dresses, pantyhose.I dress like a lady and act like one. People don't believe me when I tell them how old I am. I see the surprise in their face. I run almost every day and I think that's what keeps me young. I am really into taking care of myself by not smoking, drinking, etc. Long hair is my preference. I am told by women and men both that I have beautiful hair and certainly don't look my age. I get asked at all the time, but my heart is with someone who has short curly hair and several tattoos. opposites attract.
124 - Robert
Good for you, Evergreen! Long hair usually hides at least five years on women over 30, more on those over 40 or 50. Keep it long, Women.
125 - Kate
I am a tall, thin, attractive blonde and have already received a lot of male attention (too much and most of it unwelcomed.) In my 20s, I cut is short for a professional interview. I noticed that with shorter hair, I was taken more seriously, but men stopped hitting on me. In fact, a few even accused me of looking like a boy or being "masculine." I also noticed that while many professional men liked working with me, they were all married to wives with long hair-meaning they were romantically attracted to a more feminine type. However, as some have noted, the people who did approach me were far more interesting and more apt to have noticed "me" as opposed to some random gorgeous blonde woman with long hair. When I grew my hair longer, it was interesting that some of the men who had taken a shine to me before and who were friends had to explain to their wives, or even "justify" me on account of my beauty. Beauty is a distraction and a curse. It's true that when you are sexy, that is often the first and only thing anyone will see or notice about you--and you will attract the wrong kind of attention.
I have grown out my hair as I have been wanting to get married. I am hounded by men everywhere I go -- when I go jogging, I regularly get propositioned by men wanting dates/sex or if I go to the restaurant alone, by men, who want to get to know me better--all because of how I look. I can sense immediately that we would not be compatible and that we have nothing in common but by virtue of the fact that they find me sexually stimulating to be around by virtue of my long, gorgeous hair. Again, wrong people/wrong kinds of attention.
With longer hair, I have also encountered problems with professional advancement. I am not taken as seriously and have even been referred to as "little girl" a few times. I am in my mid-30s. Today when I was bent over shopping a fellow shopped who wanted to talk to me about something told her associate, "Wait, I need to ask this young girl something."
Now that I have been laid off due to economic downturn, I am needing to look for work again. I am seriously considering cutting my hair short and stylish. I suppose I am also worried now that if I do, I will greatly diminish my chances of attracting a suitable partner.
Having said that, I can no longer tolerate the sleazy men who constantly accost me nor can I imagine a distinguished man would want a long haired "girl" as a partner. Long hair does indicate an attempt to retain or recapture youth. I think of all the women I admire, they sport short, stylish hair and are mature, accomplished people.
Having said that, do any of you have thoughts on Ann Coulter or Caroline Kennedy's hair styles? Does the length of their hair detract from their credibility and gravitas? Coulter is in her 40s, but granted, unmarried, and the blonde bimbo image is one she cultivates as she frequently wears ultra short skirts, to capitalize on the fact that she is a tall, thin, sexy blonde who happen to have a brain. Her critics might say that her sex appeal distracts from her lack of talent. Media has referred to Kennedy as a "little girl" and doesn't take her seriously either.