Dear Elsa,
Can Sagittarius men truly love?
Signed,
Doubtful
Dear Doubtful,
I suspect your Sagittarius man can love, but please understand - he must remain in motion. If you love a Sagittarius, you’ve chosen to love a wild horse. If you attempt to corral a wild horse, one day you’ll wake up to find they’ve jumped the fence.
A wild horse is a wild horse. When it opts to run free, it doesn't mean to injure the person who built the corral. It's just the only way for the animal to feel vitally alive.
So if you want to love Sagittarius, you must leave the door open at all times. This is just the way it is. To restrict a Sadge is akin to preventing a Virgo from reading a book, or a Pisces from dreaming. It’s unthinkable. Imagine a chained wild horse. What’s uglier than that?
So yes, of course a Sadge can give and receive love - but not if it means they're tied down. If you love him, these are your choices:
- Love him as he passes through.
- Set up home with him, but leave the door open, understanding he’s going roam from time to time - and that does not mean he will cheat.
- Travel together.
My sister has her Moon and Jupiter Moon conjunct in Sagittarius. Her advice regarding Sadge men? “Ride ‘em while you can!”
Article comments
— go to most recent comments1 - Aaman
This is Sag-tire
2 - Stumped
What is the definition of love for Sagittarius men? Is their definition so different from everyone else's. Are most Sagittarian men know-it-alls?
3 - Silas Kain
I am a Sagitarrius. Does that qualify as an answer to your question?
4 - Stumped
Is it true that Sagittarians and Leos are supposed to be compatible?
5 - Stumped
I believe that most are intelligent... Do you consider yourself a know-it-all?
6 - Silas Kain
Yes. Sags, Leos and Aries are compatible.
7 - elsa
Do I consider myself a know-it-all? No. I consider myself a know-a-lot. About what I know about, that is. :)
8 - Stumped
Well Silas,
I'm having trouble... I'm the Leo, he's the Sagittarius and a simple question turns into a lecture about something other than what you inquired about.
Are Sags really in touch with themselves or are they more interested in appearing impressive?
9 - Silas Kain
That's a double edged sword, Stumped. For the most part Sags are in touch with themselves and in doing so they have the penchant to appear impressive. Speaking for myself I am very much a free spirit and hate the thought of being tied down. I'm fluid and can change as situations dictate. If anything, I've learned that Sags are the kind of people who shoot those arrows to facilitate changes in the status quo. Most of us are loud mouthed, opinionated and argue from the perspective that we're always right. The reality is that underneath the facade, we're children at heart who tend to explore the wonderment of what's around us, never being fully satisfied. The best thing you can do as a Leo is not take him all that seriously. Let him act out and once it's over you'll be able to gently prod him in your direction. Leos are a stabilizing force for the Sagitarrian and relationships between the two are often filled with laughter and adventure. One thing you can be sure of is that there'll never be a dull moment, just a lot of hot air.
10 - elsa
Whoops! Sorry about getting in this conversation. I thought that question was addressed to me.
::leaves the room::
11 - Silas Kain
Come back, elsa. I am dying to hear your take. A lot of people don't realize how many famous Sags there really are. We're such a delightful bunch.
12 - elsa
Well I like y'all. And since I know you're here...
I have an old bit about sadge bluntness. I'm going to dig it up and post it. I wrote about Gemiliars once and people got pissed, so I wrote about the shadow side of sadge truth telling.
You'll laugh your ass off.
13 - elsa
Okay, I found that piece on Sadge truth telling. It'll load on Sunday.
Cheerio!
14 - Nancy
Once upon a time I worked for a government security agency which shall remain initial-less. The odd thing about it was, of the 40-some agents in my unit (mostly male) 35 were sagittarians! My take would be sagg males are not mavericks. These guys were pretty straight, almost cartoonish, a la MIB.
15 - Stumped
Thanks Silas and Elsa...
Silas... thanks for the insight. It's perplexing at times where this man is coming from... I respect his ability to view the various angles of any one situation, but have my own set of thoughts and opinions as well... and sometimes feel that he is trying to impose his opinions on me to the point where I start hearing the sound effects from the teacher on Charlie Brown... wah, wah, wah, wah...
We do laugh a lot and geniunely enjoy one one another... there are times, however that I don't know how to take him...
16 - Sagittarius
7th december 1986 (9:48 Pm) INDIA - anybody can work for free on my natal chart , Pls ( Im a Sag - GOOD FORTUNE FOR YOU: Have Faith n Work it out )
17 - Stumped
What is the deal with being in a relationship with a Sagittarius (over 1 year) and he won't bring me around his friends, family or otherwise???
Stumped.
18 - els
Stumped - I wouldn't hazard to guess without birth data.
19 - Stumped
This is what I know about his birth data:
Born November 25, 1972
Is that enough info?
20 - Stumped
Elsa,
I've been in a relationship with a Sagittarius male for nearly a year. We've enjoyed one another. He lives about an hour from me in a different state, so he would generally come down to visit every other weekend.
I started to see a pattern of him making plans on the off weekends, with no invitation for me to participate. As a matter of fact, I've never been invited to attend any functions or just hang out with him and his friends. Never mind that all of them have wives, girlfriends, etc.
I addressed over and over again the importance of being exposed to his life as he is to mine.
He invited me up once... yet I have still not met any of his peers, family members, etc.
At this point, I have told him that I won't be in a hidden relationship. He wants to make light of it and make attempts to avoid addressing the situation.
Now he needs "time to himself", yet he wants me to clarify what level of communication we're going to have.
I'm really at the point where I want to tell him to come correct or leave me alone....
Your thoughts, Elsa???
21 - confussed
i am a leo and i have read all the comments on here. i have been dating a sagittarius for a year and i have not met his family or friends either. i have met his daughter but that is about it. i feel like giving up.
22 - TheSagGuy
I'm letting metaphysical cat out of the bag. There is a simple social truth that all sagitarians MUST be BORN knowing. Instinctive understanding, or perhaps I just see things this way personally, but here it is none-the-less. This is a long explination that requires a pre-face setup to get you thinking correctly, so please dont skip down, or you may not get it :)
I see the color blue, and I point and call it blue. I call it blue because I was told at some point in my life that was what blue looked like. You call it blue for the same reason. However, there is no way at all for me to TRUELY know if your blue looks the same as mine. My blue could look like your yellow, but we both still call it blue because our past experience has shaped our perspective of the truth. We are both correct from our own individual point of view, and those points happen to agree with eachother in that particular situation. They agree because the lens of perspective, which is shaped by our past experience, has bent the input from our eyes into the same idea, regardless of wether or not it actually match's. Our past experience on this matter is identical (Someone told both of us that was the color blue) and so we agree. For no other reason do we agree.
Now, with the fundimentals out of the way. Everything you see, hear, taste, touch, etc.. is shaped by your past experience through the lens of perspective to be a certain thing to you. Including people. Because of this, you can NEVER TRUELY KNOW ANYONE. This is an un-breakable rule. Deal.
Now, knowing this to be true (and if you think about it for a minute you will realise it is) You know a me that is a compilation of what I show you, filtered through your perception. I hate to quote an anime series, but i've heard no better explination of this idea. The me that exists in your mind is different from the me that exists in my mind, my mothers mind, your mothers mind, or anyone elses because of two factors.
1.We all show each person a slightly different side of ourselves based on the status of our relationship with that person.
2.Each person has a wholey unique lens of perspective with which to filter the personallity they are shown.
Basiclly, there is a me for each person I interact with.
Now, we get to answering the questions above about the disconnected Sag. He is hesitant about merging the three hims. The you and him he see's as the we. It's entirley different from the him or the you. There is a him for his familly, and a him for his friends. When these three people meet up (We, Family me, Friends me) it's ALWAYS complicated. Not bad per-say, just complicated.
We really don't dig complication unless we make it for ourselves and can handle it alone.
Hope that helps.
23 - confussed
I some what understand. The three, basically, you are saying that until he is fully able to handle all three parts of his life in the same room then he will make that happen, until then complication is just not the thing right now.
I mean i never have any problems with him, just the whole family thing, i could understand that he has explained to me that his mom was very sick and his sister is married and doing her own thing, and his brother is in jail. But when his mom is well he will bring me around, but i feel like he has been saying that for a year, i have been very cool with it. Just confussed sometimes, but i give him his freedom as much as posible, i call about once or twice a day, mostly i let him call me and he see each other twice a wk or when ever cause he works 2 jobs and so do i. over all our relationship is cool just meeting the family that kind of bother me. but is it ok to give him a lot of that freedom?
24 - stumped
Confused,
I know what you mean... I am almost at the end of my rope. We have a great relationship... but I can see the complications... His mother has moved in with him and she is a DRAMA QUEEN to the hilt. My first encounter with her was when he was in the hospital and she was rude and disrespectful and if I never see her again... that's fine with me. But I'm sure you see the problem...
With her in the middle of his apartment, trips to visit him are pretty much out of the question... He has to figure it out... Not sure if I can stick around. In my mind the question becomes what's next?
25 - swingingpuss
A mama's boy? lol dont need astrology to figure that one out. He knows what his mama is all about and if he hasnt told her to lay off by now then its time you laid him off