Hi Elsa!
My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time now, and things have been great. He's a really good man. We enjoyed sex together very much, and continued to have a healthy sex life... until I started to have nightmares where I was being sexually abused. After looking through some of my old journals, I discovered everything I had dreamed about was true and had actually happened to me when I was a teenager. I had blocked out the memory for years. I told my boyfriend I needed some space.
That was two years ago. I've been going to a therapist to help me work through some of my issues. She's been very helpful, and I feel like I'm ready to be intimate with my boyfriend again. Except, I just can't get started. Our relationship is really good, otherwise. I want to be sexual and, of course, so does he. It's like I don't know how to do it. What's blocking me?
Signed,
Venus Lost
Dear Venus,
Aw, this sucks. I feel so bad for you. Listen to me, please. You are 23 years old and you’ve got to get your sex life back. You can not let this bastard—whoever it was who abused you—cheat you of one of the primary pleasures in life. And the sooner the better, especially considering the fact you are a Scorpio rising with an 8th house Mars.
Now that describes a very sexual person. This is true regardless of what happened to you. Do you understand? You were born a sexual person. You are supposed to be a sexual person, blah, blah, blah. So do you want to allow this person who abused you to hijack your life? Of course not. I think you ought to fight.
And it may interest you to know sex and fighting are Mars ruled. That means if I can get you mad, if I can get you pissed off over the idea this bastard has derailed your life, your anger might very well inspire you to fight, which will automatically jumpstart your Mars—your sex drive.
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