Hi Elsa!
My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time now, and things have been great. He's a really good man. We enjoyed sex together very much, and continued to have a healthy sex life... until I started to have nightmares where I was being sexually abused. After looking through some of my old journals, I discovered everything I had dreamed about was true and had actually happened to me when I was a teenager. I had blocked out the memory for years. I told my boyfriend I needed some space.
That was two years ago. I've been going to a therapist to help me work through some of my issues. She's been very helpful, and I feel like I'm ready to be intimate with my boyfriend again. Except, I just can't get started. Our relationship is really good, otherwise. I want to be sexual and, of course, so does he. It's like I don't know how to do it. What's blocking me?
Signed,
Venus Lost
Dear Venus,
Aw, this sucks. I feel so bad for you. Listen to me, please. You are 23 years old and you’ve got to get your sex life back. You can not let this bastard — whoever it was who abused you — cheat you of one of the primary pleasures in life. And the sooner the better, especially considering the fact you are a Scorpio rising with an 8th house Mars.
Now that describes a very sexual person. This is true regardless of what happened to you. Do you understand? You were born a sexual person. You are supposed to be a sexual person, blah, blah, blah. So do you want to allow this person who abused you to hijack your life? Of course not. I think you ought to fight.
And it may interest you to know sex and fighting are Mars ruled. That means if I can get you mad, if I can get you pissed off over the idea this bastard has derailed your life, your anger might very well inspire you to fight, which will automatically jumpstart your Mars — your sex drive.
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