Hi Elsa!
I'm a silly mid-20s Libra who proclaims to live by the seat of her pants, but really just wants to plan. Nearly two years ago, I started a relationship with an older Leo and now that our relationship has been progressing, I feel like I'm on this perpetual "okay, now what?" plane of existence.
We started as friends, then I nudged him to say we were dating. We were dating, and then I nudged him to admit we were "seeing each other exclusively". We were exclusive, and then we came to "so we're boyfriend and girlfriend, right?" Then we arrived at the "love" stage of things.
I guess I'm just a person who likes things to be laid out well in advance. The truth is that I know I'm not ready for marriage in my life, but I want him to say, "in the future…" and give me some "planned timing". At least get a "not now, but someday" statement out of him, but he is sticking to saying that he can't think about it seriously now, since he's not where he wants to be financially, stability wise, etc.
Am I just being overzealous in my planning? Should I just step back and enjoy the relationship I have — especially since I don't want baby bundles or wedded bliss right now, either? I guess I'm just petrified that when I come to my own personal "someday" - and feel ready for that step - that he won't be.
Signed:
Pushy Libra?
Dear Pushy,
Pushy with a question mark? Are you asking me? Hell yes, you are pushy! You’re a total control freak! And you’re very smart to have identified this behavior at your age. Know why? Because if you don’t curb this tendency, you are going to push yourself into a total state of misery.
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