Now the hard part. I have had to learn that I cannot assume that I will never meet another man I can trust. I cannot assume that men who will treat me with dignity and respect do not exist. I am learning that I need to allow untrustworthy individuals to pass me by while I wait on God. I will not sink into depression (again) but instead live my life to the fullest, growing in my faith and allowing God to work in my life.
I have to remember that my trust has to be placed in Christ. There will never be a man who is able to fulfill my deepest desires. There will never be a man to rescue me from my circumstances or to make all of my dreams come true. That place has to be reserved for Christ alone. He has to be my priority and with that, everything else in my life will fall into place. He alone will fulfill my hopes and dreams but only if I choose to trust Him with the entirety of my life and my heart.
Song of Songs 8:6-7: "Place me like a seal over your heart, or like a seal on your arm. For love is as strong as death, and its jealousy is as enduring as the grave. Love flashes like fire, the brightest kind of flame. Many waters cannot quench love; neither can rivers drown it. If a man tried to buy love with everything he owned, his offer would be utterly despised."
In order for these things to be accomplished, Christ has to be my foundation. I have to allow myself to trust and go deeper into a relationship with Christ. Once I trust, I will begin to discover all the great plans that He has set aside for me. Once you realize that He is the Ultimate Prince, your entire world will change. Think about it. He should be the one I measure every other relationship against because He made the most amazing romantic gesture when He gave up His life in order to save mine.
John 3:16: "For God so loved the world that he gave His only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life."
John 15:12-13: "I command you to love each other in the same way that I love you. And here is how to measure it-the greatest love is shown when people lay down their lives for their friends."
Article comments
1 - Dave Nalle
Jesus may provide some comfort, but he's not going to protect anyone from an abusive husband or boyfriend and it's irresponsible to suggest that religion is a solution to this kind of problem. People need to take responsibility for their own actions and their own safety, not rely on any outside force to solve their problems.
Dave
2 - Nicole
Thank you for your comment but I think you may have missed what I was talking about in my article. I never suggested staying with the abuser and am no longer with my abuser. That being said, as a women who has dealt with abuse, I fear men. I am now learning to trust God and surrender my life to Him allowing Him to lead me in the way I should go.
3 - Christopher Rose
Unfortunately, you have learned nothing except to sink into the arms of superstition and ignorance.
4 - Nicole
Thank you for your comment as well. It's all about faith and trust. I choose faith in God. That may not be for you and that's ok. We are all given the choice and He is my choice. May He bless you.