If you want to find true happiness, just fake it.
Author Fay Weldon wants me to extol the virtues of my partner while giving up on my quest for the big O. She suggests I settle for misery in bed to insure an enduring relationship. ‘Fake it and get on with it,’ appears to be her motto. I’d better plan to remain single too, if I want a kick ass career, that is.
It is clear that no progressive feminist peers back at her from the mirror, at least not these days, as she puts forth a claim that a top-level career may be irreconcilable with sexual pleasure.
In What Makes Women Happy, Fay writes, “Eighty per cent of women only sometimes - or never - experience orgasm. Facts are facts and there we are. Deal with it.“
I read this the other day and didn’t consider it significant. Fay — although having written a few good books — has tended to contradict herself over time, writing to whatever issue is popular. At the same time, she writes in a way which produces enough controversy to gain attention for her work.
I read a couple of posts about the book on a few feminist blogs and wondered why they would bother to write about the book, as it seems a rather transparent attempt to incite in order to promote.
I started thinking (I do that sometimes, usually late at night while watching really old movies) and remembered something Katherine Hepburn said in an old interview on biography channel.
I can’t quote it verbatim, but it was her opinion that a woman has to make a choice between a man and family or a career. She said a woman could not do both well because there just wasn’t enough time in the day. I wonder if she was talking about all the time and energy going into faking orgasms in order to make the man happy.