But since it's only dating, a casual approach is good.
You can meet someone for a drink or coffee even if they don't look like "the one." You can never really know a person until you meet them in the flesh, which is the whole point of dating in the first place.
Anyone who stands you up or otherwise disses you in any way is no good, period.
If he’s a no-show from the get-go, get out before you even get on board that love train. If they won't leave a message on your machine to let you know they can't make it, there's a reason why – like a wife, perhaps, or just a power/headgame trip at your expense. Make it a one-way exit.
Don’t expect true love, or even true like.
If you find it, it’ll be when you least expect it. Best thing to do is aim for friendship, with similar rules: no abusive behavior on either side; honesty; and the good old golden rule.
Desperation is a buzz kill.
I’m in quite a sweet spot, since my ex-boyfriend and I are the best of friends. He’s spoiled me for anyone else, thus far. Desperation will lead to desperate measures. And men and women alike can smell desperation – the stink of it penetrates into the darkest depths of cyberspace – despite the fact that we don’t yet have the means to scratch and sniff our potential partner online (pheromone download, anyone?)
Less is more.
Brevity is a virtue; don’t be in a rush; don't reveal too much too soon; engage as many as you can and politely weed out all but the ones who seem worth a gander. With any luck, this will leave enough contenders to keep you busy.
I could go on, but for now I’d treasure some feedback and maybe even some pointers. What say you all?