Let's clear this up. Responding promptly is not a bad thing. It will likely help you stand out from the other dozen guys that messaged her today. Like most opportunities in life, you're far better off striking while the iron's hot. Get over it and message her back. In fact, do it while she's still logged on. Forget the head games and be yourself. Women are attracted to confident men who are comfortable in their own skin. Be yourself and you'll be fine!
Mistake #6: Asking for her personal information too soon
You messaged this really great looking girl and she responded with a basic “Hi” message. Now what? You want her real email address, her phone number, her work number, or better yet her address so you can go there now, right? Stop!
Asking her for any personal information in your first messages is a quick way to kill the relationship before it starts. Think of two dogs approaching each other - what do they do? They approach slowly and cautiously, and proceed to sniff each other. Why do they do this? They're getting to know each other. People are the same in many respects. Don't scare her off. Take it slow and let her get to know you before requesting personal information.
Mistake #7: Making sexual innuendos in your first message
Yes, she's really hot. Yes, her profile seems flirty and sexual. You think it's okay to be overtly sexual when you try to contact her. Wrong! Unless you're on AdultFriendFinder.com or other adult site, sexual innuendos are unlikely to help you. They'll most likely torpedo any chances you might have had with her, so don't do it.
Mistake #8: Sending her money or a credit card number
Yes, the ever-popular Nigerian (or whatever country is in on it this month) money scam. Social networking sites, including online dating sites, are plagued by scammers. Guys you know are falling for it every day. Remember, the whole “if it sounds too good to be true” idea still stands!
If your online profile is really bad and all of a sudden a girl strangely resembling a supermodel emails you and promises to make all your dreams come true, take it slow. Do not send money or other financial information to make her come to you.
Article comments
1 - sehpferd
Dear Dan and Jennifer,
your advice is excellent - I love item 10 of your list - it should really be on top of the list, because it is the first thing you should know when you start dating.
Best wishes
Gebhard Roese
Budapest
2 - Single Asian Woman
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3 - Jaison Williams
I will say women are all about connecting with their minds. Just because you're looking for a quick fling, that doesn't mean she's going to respond.