One of the best ways to find out what men like and dislike about women is to hear it from men themselves. That's why I often frequent the site, AskMen. A section called "Dating & Sex" contains articles and advice about dealing with women - for men and by men. Getting the inside scoop on "man-talk" is extremely useful for a woman. I think of this as keeping current on what’s in on Men Street.
Recently, I came across an advice article on The Psychology of Needy Women. The man who wrote it talked about the different “attachment styles” that different women had. Translation: the varying degrees to which different women are needy.
I'd always known needy women appeared unattractive and weak to men, and have written a few times on how not to appear needy in a relationship. However, I’d never quite imagined the extent to which men were petrified of needy women. Let's just say that, after having read the article, I now understand that getting into a relationship with a needy woman is a man's worst nightmare.
Do you feel like there might be worse nightmares than that? So do I, but not most men, apparently. The article states, "knowing your woman’s attachment style can... help you determine whether or not she’s worth dating."
Worth dating? Apparently, this is what men evaluate when they first start dating a woman.
When a woman first starts dating a man, she analyzes him very simply: Is he attractive enough? Does he dress well? Is he employed? What are his hobbies and interests? Will he call again?
The men, apparently, analyze women on a much deeper level: What are her psychological issues? What is her relationship with her parents? What are her past relationship experiences? How needy is she?
And there you were, worrying about your hair!
Article comments
1 - JEANNIE
This is terrible advice. You are encouraging CoDependency.
2 - BigDan
Sounds like games to me. hideing the beast till you suck him far enough. But he covered that in the article too when he said the relationship will start out just fine with out signs and after a while, POW!
I guess he is familiar with your article.