But, who’s to say that my lifestyle wasn’t better? The divorce rate is sky-rocketing. This really became noticeable during the free love movement. You know, the time when people began waiting longer to get married, and fewer women wanted to be homemakers. What if some of those women had been content, or even happy, to stay at home with their children? What if people hadn’t waited until they had slept with, or “dated,” every one of their options before they got married?
Sure, maybe things would be the same. People may even get divorced because of the desire to know what else is out there, but waiting to get married and sampling every flavor of the week isn’t lowering the divorce rate or putting an end to affairs. If anything, I believe it makes the desire to have an affair stronger. If a man and woman only had sex with each other, would they know anything was possibly missing? If they allowed God to bless their sex life (oooh, scary thought, huh?) couldn’t there be fireworks (trust me, there can)?
I’m not perfect. I thought I was supposed to exhaust my options before deciding which one was best. To me the heartbreak isn’t worth it. Why should I have to experience the worst before I pick the best? What kind of damage has experiencing the worst done to my relationship with the best?
Look, I’m not saying this lifestyle is for everyone. I believe if everyone gave it a chance it would be, but I know many people would disagree. What I am saying is this lifestyle is for me. I am happy to be a wife and am blessed to be carrying my first child. All I ask is that if you don’t like it, wish me luck, and let me prove you wrong. Don’t try to tear my marriage down and then ask me to agree with you.
Article comments
1 - Mindy
I work with your mom who sent me this link. Thank you for saying things I have wanted to tell people so many times! I think you're right about most people regretting their own choices. They want to feel like they did the best they could and chalk up their unhappiness to the inevitability of life. By you being happy making other choices, it rubs it in how wrong they were even though you're certainly not trying to do that and they don't realize that's why they're judging. Very insightful Diana!
PS - Congratulations on expecting your first! I'm so happy for you!