Dear Elsa,
I am married for 10 years, and in love with a man I met on vacation who has been married for 18 years.
We had a great connection, unbelievable. He is a September Virgo. We emailed back and forth for about four months and called each other once a week. Yes, I know to the outside world we both seem like we are lacking in a lot of moral fiber and by doing this, I guess we are. That is a whole other letter.
He got laid off the first of March. We had emailed thru his company e-mail, so he said he would find a way to get in touch with me in a few weeks. I told him I did not want him to lose his family now that he had already lost his job, and he said that he wanted to keep in touch and would find a way. I have never heard another word. It has been 11 weeks and I still feel empty.
My question: why would someone who really seemed to care not even bother to say goodbye? He knew I would not give him the least bit resistance if it was time to part ways, so why not call and at least explain that it is over, I cared about you, etc. I really need your input on this.
Feeling Very Empty
Dear Empty,
Obviously I don’t know why this guy slipped out like a snake. And neither do you. And believe it or not, this is in your best interest. Because eventually, when you come to accept the fact that you don’t know and you won’t know, there will be just one thing left to do. Focus on the fact you feel empty, that is - and this is what you need to fix.
So let me try to turn your thinking to something more productive, okay? Here’s my version of your story. You’re married and you meet this dashing guy. He engages you and you him. You email for some months, and share some phone calls... at which point he drops off the planet.
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Article comments
1 - Mary.
Hahaha. Well put, elsa!