Surely if a woman was to accept a marriage proposal from her partner, she is highly capable enough to have made that decision and accepted because of the love and commitment that they share. To suggest that marriage preparation is a necessary step for newly engaged couples is to insult their intelligence of knowing whether they are ready to marry, is it not?
When discussing marriage, I do think it necessary to set down some ground rules of what you expect from the marriage, what the commitment means to each of you, and issues such as money and children, but to waste time, money, and belief in an evening course that allows couples to learn more about one another and thus "have a greater chance of having a marriage that lasts a lifetime" is slightly naive, and portrays doubt and a lack of faith in a couple’s decision to marry.
Take Renee Zellweger and Bradley Cooper for example. The A-listers have been dating since last summer and, as they are both "commitment phobes," they are having pre-marital counselling to ensure the relationship lasts. Now I know councillors are very beneficial and help thousands of people with various problems, but advertising that the foundations built in marriage preparation counselling help a marriage to "last a lifetime" is surely considered false advertising! No one, no matter how qualified, can ensure such as thing. As divorce statistics show us the rates are continually increasing and no amount of pre-marital courses are going to change that fact.
So although every couple would undoubtedly do everything within their power to ensure that their marriage lasts, don’t be fooled by this deceiving placebo. Believe in your relationship and your own ability to make a big decision. If you’ve both agreed that marriage is the right thing for you, and you answered "Yes" to that almighty question, then you did so for a very good reason and you don’t need to be taught about the man you’ve chosen to marry. If you’ve agreed to be with him forever, for better or for worse, then surely you know all you need to know! Those that are considering such a course, you must ask yourself why you feel it necessary to take such drastic action, and if you feel counselling is needed before the wedding has even been set in motion, is this truly the path you want to lead and the man you want to say "I do" to?