Have you ever noticed that once you start to make significant changes in your life everything starts to shift and dance and, frankly, crash around you, all at the same time? I’ve seen this happen to many people many times and have lived through it myself more than once.
Almost the minute I made the very frightening decision to jump with both feet into self-employment from my secure, stable, and salaried job of 12 years, my life started to fall apart. A health condition that had been worsening over six years resulted in a surgery that laid me up just when I entered the Land of No Work and No Pay.
Our one-car family became a two-car family due to my transition and one month later, the original vehicle decided to blow it's engine during rush hour while I was driving it on a major Chicago route. My computer crashed and I lost everything (not great for a largely web-based business) and our furnace died. This meant the purchase of a new furnace, air conditioner, and hot water heater.
Had I known any of these things would be happening, I would not have left my job! As it was, self-employment terrified me. I was certain that a life of macaroni and cheese and 10/$1 ramen noodles was before me. Despite the fears, I knew I had no other choice. This was what I sincerely wanted to do, so I leapt...and leapt right into every fear I had, and a few I had forgotten to consider (like having my health crisis).
I hear similar stories from my clients all the time. Making the commitment to pursue major life changes sometimes sends seismic waves through our lives. Understandably, we may be tempted to respond by fighting it, panicking, and taking the instability as a sign that we should retreat. We say things like “I can’t deal with that now, I have to finish this first.” “Why did this have to happen now, just when I was focusing on this other stuff?” “Maybe this is a sign (that this is the wrong direction)!”